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Healing the Shockwaves of Abortion in Families

Thursday, September 3rd, 2015

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September 3, 2015

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Just as every member of a family suffers when a child dies of disease or in an accident, all relationships within a family are affected when a child is lost to abortion, according to child and family psychiatrist Dr. Philip G. Ney, who has said: “There is nothing more damaging to a family than the abortion of one of its children.”

The Silent No More Awareness Campaign’s Healing the Shockwaves of Abortion initiative focuses on families in September to help those who have been impacted by abortion face their grief and find healing.

Father Frank Pavone, Pastoral Director of Silent No More and National Director of Priests for Life, explained that Healing the Shockwaves of Abortion is a year-long international effort to reach all the different groups of people who are impacted when a child dies from abortion. These groups include mothers, father, grandparents, survivors, pro-life advocates and those who perform or help provide abortion.

“In September, we acknowledge that someone is missing from the family portrait when a child has been lost to abortion,” said Georgette Forney, co-founder of Silent No More. “Whether it’s the child of both parents who has been lost, or just the mom or dad, the imprint of that child is felt by all family members. All of them need healing, and it is available.”

The unfolding Planned Parenthood atrocities reveal how abortion reduces an unborn child to a collection of body parts for sale to the highest bidder. But there is also a division that occurs in the heart and soul of the parents of these children.

“They carry this very intimate and unnatural experience of participating in the death of their unborn child into their subsequent relationships, marriage and family life,” said Kevin Burke, LSW, a Priests for Life pastoral associate and an architect of the Shockwaves initiative. “This unresolved grief and loss can interfere with women and men being able to negotiate the challenging waters of marriage and family life. They can struggle with communication, trust and intimacy. This naturally impacts family life.”

The good news is that with abortion healing programs like Rachel’s Vineyard, couples and families can be forgiven, grieve their lost family members, and find a new health and harmony together.

“The importance of family and family life is the core message of the World Meeting of Families to take place in Philadelphia later this month, and of the special event we will have there,” said Janet Morana, co-founder of Silent No More. “Pope Francis, in bringing the world’s attention to the fact that those who have chosen abortion can be forgiven, has helped make families aware that abortion grief is real but does not have to last forever. Forgiveness and healing are available.”

To find healing resources, articles, blogs and prayers about healing the family, go to www.abortionshockwaves.com.

To learn about the event during the World Meeting of Families that will feature the Shockwaves initiative, see www.ProLifeWorldEvent.com. To learn more about what Pope Francis has said about forgiveness for those who have had abortions, see www.PriestsForLife.org.

To arrange interviews with anyone on the Shockwaves team or with families that have been healed, call Leslie Palma at 347-286-7277 or email leslie@silentnomore.com

The Campaign began November 11th, 2002. As of February 2015, the Silent No More Awareness Campaign has held 1,436 Gatherings in 17 countries & 48 states with 5,934 women and men sharing their abortion testimonies. Testimonies have also been shared at 104 high schools and universities in the last 4 years, 26 in 2014. There are 2,233 testimonies posted on the Campaign website, with 332 that are shared via video! Currently there are 16,225 people registered with the Campaign representing 77 countries. People who are not ready to join the Campaign, are invited to register their regret. So far, 4,890 women and 573men have said they regret their abortion or lost fatherhood. Another552 women and men have posted memorials to their children.

The Silent No More Awareness Campaign is a joint project of Anglicans for Life and Priests for Life. For more information, please visit our website: www.SilentNoMoreAwareness.org

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Fr. Pavone Welcomes Church’s “eagerness to reconcile those who have had abortions”

Tuesday, September 1st, 2015

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Date: September 1, 2015

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NEW YORK — Fr. Frank Pavone, National Director of Priests for Life and also Pastoral Director of the world’s largest ministry for healing after abortion, Rachel’s Vineyard, and also of the Silent No More Awareness Campaign, the largest mobilization of those who have had abortions, issued the following statement this morning:

“All of us at Priests for Life, Rachel’s Vineyard, and Silent No More welcome the letter our Holy Father issued today, indicating his compassionate concern for those who have had abortions, and making it easier for them to obtain the absolution of a priest. This step does not mean that forgiveness wasn’t available before. However, it simplifies the process outlined in Church law whereby, in certain circumstances, the priest needs to get authorization before giving absolution. In the Jubilee Year, priests will not need to delay that absolution, provided there is repentance.

“We welcome this concrete expression of the Church’s eagerness to reconcile those who have had abortions. We who oppose abortion do not oppose those who have had abortions; rather, we welcome them with mercy and compassion. A very large part of our work at Priests for Life is to extend the urgent invitation to healing. We oversee the work of Rachel’s Vineyard (www.RachelsVineyard.org), a retreat program which constitutes the world’s largest ministry of healing after abortion and which enjoys the personal and enthusiastic support of Pope Francis.

“Moreover, through our Silent No More Awareness Campaign, through which mothers, fathers, and entire families witness to the pain of being involved in abortion and the joy of God’s healing, we echo that invitation to healing through the testimonies of those who have found it. They share these testimonies in churches, at rallies, and in the media (see www.SilentNoMore.com).

“I have spoken with Pope Francis on five occasions specifically about our work of healing those who have had abortions, and healing even abortionists who have killed tens of thousands of children. We at Priests for Life will continue to train and encourage our brother priests to be the heralds of mercy and compassion in the face of abortion. Truth and compassion are not in tension; they are both aspects of the same God. To treat someone with compassion includes sharing with them honestly the truth they need to hear, and to be fully truthful includes revealing the reality of compassion and mercy,” stated Fr. Pavone.

The relevant portion of the Pope’s letter today is as follows:

“One of the serious problems of our time is clearly the changed relationship with respect to life. A widespread and insensitive mentality has led to the loss of the proper personal and social sensitivity to welcome new life. The tragedy of abortion is experienced by some with a superficial awareness, as if not realizing the extreme harm that such an act entails. Many others, on the other hand, although experiencing this moment as a defeat, believe that they have no other option. I think in particular of all the women who have resorted to abortion. I am well aware of the pressure that has led them to this decision. I know that it is an existential and moral ordeal. I have met so many women who bear in their heart the scar of this agonizing and painful decision. What has happened is profoundly unjust; yet only understanding the truth of it can enable one not to lose hope. The forgiveness of God cannot be denied to one who has repented, especially when that person approaches the Sacrament of Confession with a sincere heart in order to obtain reconciliation with the Father. For this reason too, I have decided, notwithstanding anything to the contrary, to concede to all priests for the Jubilee Year the discretion to absolve of the sin of abortion those who have procured it and who, with contrite heart, seek forgiveness for it. May priests fulfill this great task by expressing words of genuine welcome combined with a reflection that explains the gravity of the sin committed, besides indicating a path of authentic conversion by which to obtain the true and generous forgiveness of the Father who renews all with his presence.”

The full letter is at http://press.vatican.va/content/salastampa/en/bollettino/pubblico/2015/09/01/0637/01386.html#ing

Priests for Life is the nation’s largest Catholic pro-life organization dedicated to ending abortion and euthanasia. For more information, visit www.priestsforlife.org.

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For August Shockwaves, an Outreach to Abortionists and Clinic Workers

Thursday, August 6th, 2015

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August 6, 2015

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The horror of the undercover videos released by the Center for Medical Progress underscore this month’s focus of Healing the Shockwaves of Abortion.

In August, those who perform and assist in abortions are being invited to healing. Apart from the mother who experiences the abortion, this is the population most intimately involved in the abortion decision and procedure. Included in this outreach are clerical and administrative workers; counselors and social workers; medical staff who analyze, dissect and dispose of the unborn child’s body; nurses who provide medication and the abortionists who perform the actual procedures.

Father Frank Pavone, National Pastoral Director of Silent No More and author of Abolishing Abortion, explains:

“Of the many lessons to be learned from the undercover work of the Center for Medical Progress in regard to Planned Parenthood and organ harvesting, one is that abortion not only destroys babies and their mothers; it destroys the doctors who perform it. To be able to do what they do, and to discuss it so casually – over lunch – shows that they themselves have become dehumanized. When these people eventually leave the abortion industry, they are sorely in need of healing. We have seen this time and time again in our work with former abortionists and clinic workers.”

Father Pavone pointed out that the testimony of Holly O’Donnell, a phlebotomist interviewed on one of the Human Capital video releases, indicates she fainted the first time she was confronted with the remains of aborted children at a Planned Parenthood. She was told by a co-worker that “It still happens to a bunch of us.”

“Other former clinic workers have told us the exact same thing,” Father Pavone noted.

Kevin Burke, LSW, co-founder of Rachel’s Vineyard and an architect of Shockwaves, said:

“The publicly sanctioned practice of fetal killing has an even darker fruit; the corruption of the mind, heart and soul of those who become facilitators and apologists for the practice. The Planned Parenthood videos reveal that just as with the Nazi doctors, these normal men and women learn to divorce the reality and fully gravity of their medical practice from their everyday life and activities. But it’s rare that they can continue this throughout their careers.

Silent No More co-founders Janet Morana and Georgette Forney have issued an invitation to anyone who has left the abortion industry, or who is looking for a way out, to take advantage of the opportunities for healing available through Shockwaves.

“We have worked with many people who have left the abortion industry, including Dr. Bernard Nathanson, who was instrumental in the effort to legalize abortion,” Mrs. Morana noted. “Anyone can find healing, just as he did.”

Mrs. Forney added: “Women who have had abortions find it hard to believe they can be forgiven, or forgive themselves, but those of us who have experienced God’s mercy are here to tell everyone that forgiveness and healing are possible, even for those who have spent years performing or facilitating abortion.”

To arrange an interview with anyone on the Shockwaves team or a former abortionist or clinic worker, call Leslie Palma at 347-286-7277 or email her at leslie@silentnomore.com

The Campaign began November 11th, 2002. As of February 2015, the Silent No More Awareness Campaign has held 1,436 Gatherings in 17 countries & 48 states with 5,934 women and men sharing their abortion testimonies. Testimonies have also been shared at 104 high schools and universities in the last 4 years, 26 in 2014. There are 2,233 testimonies posted on the Campaign website, with 332 that are shared via video! Currently there are 16,225 people registered with the Campaign representing 77 countries. People who are not ready to join the Campaign, are invited to register their regret. So far, 4,890 women and 573men have said they regret their abortion or lost fatherhood. Another 552 women and men have posted memorials to their children.

The Silent No More Awareness Campaign is a joint project of Anglicans for Life and Priests for Life. For more information, please visit our website: www.SilentNoMoreAwareness.org.

Abortion Shockwaves Ripple Out To Those On The Periphery

Monday, July 6th, 2015

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Imagine your friend is planning a bank robbery. Do you agree to drive the getaway car? Do you try to talk her out of it? Do you say nothing?

Now imagine an innocent bystander is killed during that robbery. Are you impacted by that death? Of course you are, whether you were complicit in the robbery or were merely silent. Even if you counseled against it, this death, and the consequences your friend will now face, will weigh on your soul.

In July, Healing the Shockwaves of Abortion, an initiative of the Silent No More Awareness Campaign, focuses on the survivors of abortion as well as the family and friends of the women who have had abortions.

The survivors encompass ten different categories, such as those who were almost aborted, and those who had no legal protection while in the womb.

Friends include those who were complicit in the abortion, those who did nothing to try to stop it, those who did try to stop it but failed, and those who found out about the abortion only after the fact. Just like those involved in the bank robbery scenario, everyone who knows a mother who aborted her child is impacted by the loss of that child.

Kevin Burke, LSW, co-founder of Rachel’s Vineyard and an architect of the Shockwaves initiative noted that abortion survivors often suffer from this “extremely important and rarely discussed example of the collateral damage from the abortion blast.”

“Shockwaves was not designed to shame those who played a role in abortion,” said Janet Morana, co-founder of Silent No More. “Instead, it will sound a loving call of reconciliation and healing for all involved in abortion decisions.”

Father Frank Pavone, Pastoral Director of Silent No More and National Director of Priests for Life, explained that “Healing the Shockwaves of Abortion is a year-long international effort to reach all the different groups of people who are impacted when a child dies from abortion. In addition to survivors, those groups include grandparents, siblings, survivors, spouses, abortionists and their staff, and pro-life advocates. This is a call for all of us to grieve the children who have been killed. “

Georgette Forney, co-founder of Silent No More, said all those who mourn the loss of a child to abortion can benefit from the healing resources that can be found at www.AbortionShockwaves.com

“People on the periphery of an abortion decision might be confused about the feelings they are experiencing,” Mrs. Forney said. “Through Shockwaves, we hope to validate and address those feelings.”

Healing the Shockwaves of Abortion was launched in January at the March for Life in Washington, D.C., where the Papal Nuncio, Archbishop Carlo Maria Viganò, led a prayer and gave a blessing in the name of Pope Francis as his personal representative in the U.S.

To arrange an interview with anyone on the Shockwaves team or an abortion survivor who has found healing, call Leslie Palma at 347-286-7277 or email her at leslie@priestsforlife.org

The Campaign began November 11th, 2002. As of February 2015, the Silent No More Awareness Campaign has held 1,436 Gatherings in 17 countries & 48 states with 5,934 women and men sharing their abortion testimonies. Testimonies have also been shared at 104 high schools and universities in the last 4 years, 26 in 2014. There are 2,233 testimonies posted on the Campaign website, with 332 that are shared via video! Currently there are 16,225 people registered with the Campaign representing 77 countries. People who are not ready to join the Campaign, are invited to register their regret. So far, 4,890 women and 573men have said they regret their abortion or lost fatherhood. Another552 women and men have posted memorials to their children.

The Silent No More Awareness Campaign is a joint project of Anglicans for Life and Priests for Life. For more information, please visit our website: www.SilentNoMoreAwareness.org

In April, Healing the Shockwaves of Abortion Focuses on Siblings

Tuesday, April 7th, 2015

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This month, the Silent No More Awareness Campaign will focus on sibling survivors of abortion as part of its Healing the Shockwaves of Abortion initiative.

During the March for Life in D.C. in January, several speakers at the Silent No More gathering talked about the brother or sister they lost to abortion, and how that has impacted their lives.

Fourteen-year-old Zoe Griffin from North Carolina said the discovery that her pro-life mom, Brice, had aborted her first child was shocking, but ultimately strengthened Zoe’s activism.

Nick Kraft from North Dakota began praying outside an abortion clinic when he was 12 and was looking forward to attending the March with his entire school when he learned he had lost two siblings to abortion. His long trip to D.C. became fueled with new purpose.

Kelli Sparrow, a woman in her 40s, read a letter she had written to her aborted younger sister that alluded to the multi-generational impact of the Shockwaves of abortion.

“I mourn the loss of knowing you, my sister, and also the loss of possible nieces and nephews, a lifelong friendship and the hole that is at every family gathering.”

Parent s who have experienced abortion often keep it a secret and fear telling others, especially their children. But many parents have found sharing the truth draws the family closer and heals wounds, and can spare the next generation from repeating painful choices.

With an estimated 56 million children lost to abortion since 1973, millions of families have someone missing from their family portrait. Healing the Shockwaves of Abortion aims to help these families confront and heal from those losses.

Testimonies, prayers and healing resources can be found at the Shockwaves website, www.abortionshockwaves.com Media interested in interviewing sibling survivors should get in touch with Leslie Palma, communications director for Priests for Life, at leslie@priestsforlife.org or 347-286-7277.

The Campaign began November 11th, 2002. As of February 2015, the Silent No More Awareness Campaign has held 1,436 Gatherings in 17 countries & 48 states with 5,934 women and men sharing their abortion testimonies. Testimonies have also been shared at 104 high schools and universities in the last 4 years, 26 in 2014. There are 2,233 testimonies posted on the Campaign website, with 332 that are shared via video! Currently there are 16,225 people registered with the Campaign representing 77 countries. People who are not ready to join the Campaign, are invited to register their regret. So far, 4,890 women and 573 men have said they regret their abortion or lost fatherhood. Another 552 women and men have posted memorials to their children.

The Silent No More Awareness Campaign is a joint project of Anglicans for Life and Priests for Life. For more information, please visit our website: www.SilentNoMoreAwareness.org

When the Shockwaves of Abortion Reach the Grandparents

Tuesday, March 3rd, 2015

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Grandparents tend to say the same thing: They had no idea that complete, unconditional love would fill their hearts the first time they set eyes on a new grandson or granddaughter.

Similarly, grandparents of aborted children had no idea how deep the wound would be when that grandson or granddaughter was lost.

The Silent No More Awareness Campaign’s Healing the Shockwaves of Abortion initiative in March is dedicated to healing the wounds of these grandparents.

“Grandparents can play many different roles in an abortion,” said Janet Morana, co-founder of the Silent No More Awareness Campaign. “They may have condoned it, or coerced it, or opposed it. They may not have known about it for days, months or even years later. But these abortions leave a hole in their hearts, no matter what their involvement was. I know this from experience, because I lost two grandchildren to abortion.”

In 2015, the Silent No More Awareness Campaign gatherings at the March for Life in Washington, D.C., and the Walk for Life West Coast in San Francisco, highlighted people who mourned their lost grandchildren. Since then, many grandparents have come forward to say that, they, too, mourn the loss of a grandchild.

“Helping grandparents acknowledge unresolved pain, whether it is guilt or grief can prevent generations to come from repeating the cycle of silence that often destroys the critical connections we need in families,” said Georgette Forney, co-founder of Silent No More. “While abortion tears family bonds, healing, forgiveness and reconciliation between a grandparent and a parent and an aborted baby can restore them.”

Kevin Burke, LSW, who leads the Fatherhood Forever initiative at Silent No More said that “grandfathers know that their son or daughter’s abortion was a deeply painful experience for their family…but they rarely consider their own personal need to grieve the loss of their grandchild. Sometimes it’s only when men become grandfathers and are intimately involved in caring for their grandchild, that long-repressed post-abortion grief can surface. Grandparents, after they grieve, and heal can encourage reconciliation and healing for the entire family.”

A goal of the Shockwaves initiative is to make sure that grandparents know that abortion grief is real, that they are not alone, and that healing is available.

Visitors to www.AbortionShockwaves.com can click on “March” and then “Healing Resources” to find programs nearby that can help. Those who have been healed are invited to join the Silent No More Awareness Campaign at any level they feel comfortable, even if it just registering their regret for the role they played in the abortion.

Father Frank Pavone, National Director of Priests for Life and pastoral director of Silent No More, called upon clergy to get on board with Shockwaves and help spread the message.

“Many of the people sitting in the pews each Sunday are hiding the pain and shame of an abortion wound,” he said. “It’s time to give them the courage to step back into the light and find the peace of Christ and the welcome of his Church.”

The Campaign began November 11th, 2002. As of February 2015, the Silent No More Awareness Campaign has held 1,436 Gatherings in 17 countries & 48 states with 5,934 women and men sharing their abortion testimonies. Testimonies have also been shared at 104 high schools and universities in the last 4 years, 26 in 2014. There are 2,233 testimonies posted on the Campaign website, with 332 that are shared via video! Currently there are 16,225 people registered with the Campaign representing 77 countries. People who are not ready to join the Campaign, are invited to register their regret. So far, 4,890 women and 573 men have said they regret their abortion or lost fatherhood. Another 552 women and men have posted memorials to their children.

The Silent No More Awareness Campaign is a joint project of Anglicans for Life and Priests for Life. For more information, please visit our website:

www.SilentNoMoreAwareness.org

Reversing the Effects of RU-486 and Indeed All Harmful Effects of #Abortion and Other Abortifacient Drugs Which Hurt Babies, Mothers, Fathers, and the Whole Community.

Monday, February 23rd, 2015

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This morning Priests for Life and the American Association of Pro-Life Obstetrician-Gynecologists (AAPLOG) held a press conference to bring attention to the life-saving procedure of reversing RU-486 and to introduce a new “RU-486 Reversal Kit” not previously available to physicians.

Andrea Minichini gave her testimony of how progesterone injections saved her son’s life, Gabriel, after she had taken the first of two abortion pills and then had a change of heart. At first she was told by the abortion provider that once she took the first pill it was to late to change her mind. Her strong desire to reverse her horrible decision led her to the internet for research where she discovered the truth about reversing the effects of the first abortion pill she had already taken and save her son’s life.

150223 blog image 3Also testifying at the press conference were Dr. Matt Harrison, medical advisor to Priests for Life, did the first reversal in 2007 – relying on prayer and a deep understanding of the way mifepristone works. In 2012, Drs. George Delgado and Mary Davenport published a study in the Annals of Pharmacology, outlining a reversal protocol developed by Dr. Delgado.

With advances in technology, the pro-life movement is able to share the truth and expose the lies that have been spread by the abortion industry. Just like Andrea was told that it was too late for her to change her mind, parents seeking abortion information have been lied to on many levels.

r. Frank Pavone holding the kit that has been developed for physicians and that contains the protocol to be used to reverse the effects of RU-486

r. Frank Pavone holding the kit that has been developed for physicians and that contains the protocol to be used to reverse the effects of RU-486

Women and families seeking abortions have been told everything from “It’s just a blog of tissue” to “abortion is safe” and everything in between. Even with the advancements in ultrasound, and the overwhelming amount of evidence that show the risks of abortion on women’s physical and mental health, the abortion industry holds on to their lies. And since they are a multi-billion dollar industry, they are able to repeat their lies more often than we are able to share the truth that they try to drown the truth amidst all their lies. But little by little we are making progress and the truth about abortion is being exposed.

And as we expose the truth, we work on reversing the effects. This year Priests for Life has begin an initiative, Healing the Shockwaves of Abortion. Through this initiative, we will reverse the effects of abortion by focusing on healing a different segment of the population that has been harmed by abortion each month.

As February and Black History Month winds down we continue to expose the effects of abortion in the African American community even as we prepare to expose the effects on Grandparents during the month of March.

As we work to expose abortion it’s time we demand the recall of abortion before more lives are destroyed.

African American Victim of Rape and Molestation Says Abortion is Another Form of Enslavement for the Black Community

Tuesday, February 10th, 2015

This blog below by my colleague, Kevin Burke, LSW, reminds me of the need to refocus the exception clause in the abortion debate.

As the controversy over the “rape and incest” exceptions continues to rage on, we must keep in mind that just as rape and incest are devastating traumatic events in a girl’s/woman’s life, abortion, too, is a devastating traumatic event that only compounds the rape or incest trauma.

In an effort to comfort rape and incest victims, many err by offering abortion as a way to eliminate some of the pain victims experience. Yet, abortion doesn’t heal anyone; it brings pain, suffering and death to babies and many of their mothers. Abortion also doesn’t solve problems. Rather, abortion creates new problems for women, men, families and society.

- Alveda King

150209 blog imageOnawu Pickett is an ordained Christian minister. She feels a special calling by God to reach out to African Americans who are being ravaged by the Shockwaves of Abortion through public speaking and personal ministry.

In the following interview, Onawu tells her own story and shared some very important insights on how to better reach the millions of black families wounded by abortion loss:

Kevin: Onawu can you share with us some of your family background?

Onawu: My mother and father were migrant farm workers. She married my father when she was only 16, still very much a child herself. They met in a work camp in the season of chopping cotton in the central valley of California. Mama only went to school up to the sixth grade which led to a very limited education.

I was molested at age four by a neighbor’s son who is in prison to this day for armed robbery and rape. The boy that molested me was older…not sure how much older. His mother was my baby sitter and his parents were my parent’s good friends. I never shared this with my parents. The lie told by the molester was that I would be in trouble if I did would stick with me for the rest of my life.

My father was very abusive to my mother. He was very good looking and a drifter as well as a con artist. He was also educated and up on world events. His grandmother was a slave.

My grandmother struggled with mental health issues. My grandfather was a very humble man who very seldom lost his temper. He was murdered in 1963 by one of his seven daughter’s husband in a very small farming community of Fairmead, CA.

Kevin: What impact did those early experiences of violence, molestation have on you?

Onawu: As I reflect back on my life it started out in a pretty violent and twisted environment. With the challenges I faced in my family, I struggled with a sense of shame, not really understanding this…but also a fear of being rejected. Always looking for acceptance; yet always wanting to run away.

I use to fantasize about being adopted. I wanted a different family. My father was affectionate to me and my two sisters and brothers…but I couldn’t grasp why my mother did not say she loved us and did not show affection to us. I did not want to be punished so I will do what was asked of me, whether it was right or wrong.

The impact caused me to be a companion to intimidation, depression, a lack of self esteem and being the victim of others that had issues to want to control others. Oh yes, rejection and bitterness kept me in bondage. All I wanted was love and security. Because of my mother’s lack of education and her youth; and my father unwilling to be a Godly man (he was atheist) I felt a deep sense of insecurity.

Kevin: When we spoke earlier by phone, you shared that you were a victim of rape.

Onawu: Yes I was raped in 1972 when I was a senior in high school. I never did report the incident to the police or my parents. I knew the identity of my rapist. He was someone that I used to date. He raped me six months after we broke-up. I did not report the incident because I was afraid no one would believe me. My father wanted me to have an abortion, but I was too far along. He had a social worker come to talk to me about adoption. My mother convinced me to keep the baby and she would help me to raise him while I went to school. I graduated from high school in June of 1973. I am glad I did not abort. My son is a wonderful man who is serving in the army. He has done two tours in Iraq.

Kevin: Your first abortion occurred when you were a college student, correct?

Onawu: My first abortion in 1974, I was 20 years old and shortly after the Roe vs. Wade decision…and yes I was attending junior college at the time. When I learned I was pregnant the young man did not want the responsibility and he was already seeing someone else as well. I was referred to Planned Parenthood by a friend. I got involved again a year later with another man who was in the military was the same scenario, resulting in another abortion. I was caught up in the confusing moral climate of the time, you know, love the one you’re with. Searching for security and love in ALL the wrong places.

Like many others of my generation. It is amazing how easy it was for me to accept the pro abortion Planned Parenthood counseling back then. I was convinced that I was not carrying a human being. I was able to believe that abortion was the answer because I needed a quick fix and a cover up for a repeated act of not being a nice girl.

I met someone and married him after my second abortion. It was a stormy relationship with infidelity on his part. We had two children. He abandoned us and got involved with another woman and we divorced after seven years together.

I met a wonderful man a couple of years later. We have been together 28 years with two children together. I thank God that I had a change of heart and HE erased my shame.

Kevin: It was many years later that you decided that you needed to reach out for help from your abortion pain. What led you to take that step?

Onawu: I need to share with you some symptoms I was experiencing after my 2nd abortion. It was sometime after that I would go over overpasses or bodies of water that I actually felt that I would throw an infant over the railings into the water or over into a canyon. If I was holding a child in my lap I would hold the baby tighter. Sometime I would fight tears.

I had this fear for years up until I went to a PACE bible study program at the local Pregnancy Resource Center. I was in my fifties when the Lord brought it to my attention that constant fear and anxiety was connected to my abortions.

I faced what I had done and repented. God willingly forgave me and helped me to forgive myself. After I went through the process I wanted to share my story and tell others, especially women about God’s forgiveness and love. I gave my testimony at a local prayer group called Aglow International. It was confirmed by God that this is one major thing HE wanted me to do tell others you can be set free of your past with a major emphasis on my fellow Afro Americans.

I began to research and through this research I contacted Priest for Life. I was directed to Rachel’s Vineyard for further healing and education. I contacted the nearest retreat which would be held in Santa Rosa, CA. I was blessed to been able to attend the retreat. I did receive further healing. They were so loving, patient and more than willing to be at your side thru every step.

Kevin: Can you share about your Rachel’s Vineyard Retreat Experience?

Onawu: It was an intense three days. The men in attendance were surprisingly open to the sessions as they began to take responsibility for there part in forcing in some instances there partners’ decision to have the abortion. Tears began to flow, stony hearts were turned to flesh. In some instances the men had no say so in the woman’s decision and mourned the loss of his child. Some of the men came without a partner.

It was obviously difficult going thru the process but we all made it thru. . .individuals, couples and some grandparents were there as well. I heard testimonies how thru the retreat lives were being changed, knowing that they were on the road to healing.

Kevin: Onawu, we know that minority women face higher rates of sexual abuse, violence and rape. Do you see these things as making African American women more vulnerable to unplanned pregnancy and also seeing abortion as the best option?

Onawu: Yes. When the slaves were taken from our homeland, many women who were pregnant with child would throw themselves overboard and drown so as not to bring their children into slavery. Some women would drown themselves and their live children. I know that abortion is a form of bondage as well.

I believe that we have been conditioned to believe giving up life will make it all better for mother and child. For the child it would not have to face a cruel world and not wanted by its parents or society. Being a single mother would keep us down, and from pursuing an education and no one would want you or your kid. In other words a child out of wed lock will keep us from the pursuit of happiness…so the lie says. The woman could not carry a baby for nine months and give it up to adoption; this would be an added burden psychologically. Another mind set is why bring a child in the world and suffer the same tragedies as the mother.

Kevin: What are some of the obstacles you see in getting a message of awareness and healing to our African American Christian churches? How can we open doors to healing our families and communities?

Onawu: Some of the obstacles are trying to convey awareness to our church leaders to convince them that some of our women and men are tragic victims of abortion. Some of our leaders don’t understand the mental anguish of the consequences of abortions for mothers and fathers. Lack of knowledge is damaging, the truth shall make us free.

Some of our politicians and Christian ministers and leaders need healing as well…of their own participation in abortion and by encouraging others to abort. I believe lack of education and perhaps the ability to face their own past lead them to put up defensive walls. Maybe our church leaders would consider part of the confession of St. Augustine, “For thou has made us for thyself and restless is our heart until it comes to rest in thee.” Let us love what God love and hate what God hates.

I believe more of us need to share our testimonies not only in our churches but in government halls. Unfortunately we do a lot of sweeping hurtful issues under the rug and throw accountability out the window. Healing comes with love, compassion and forgiveness at least in my case God’s love swept away my shame.

God also helped me to forgive myself. I would love to see some celebrities hearts be touched to share their testimony I pray someone brave in the entertainment industry would stand up and come along side those who have testified about the hurt of abortion in their life. I am talking about those who our young folk took to.

We must be examples of hope and life for generations to come. My prayer is that we no longer be enslaved to poverty and violence; especially in the womb; not only for African Americans but for human beings as a whole.

Kevin: Please touch on what we discussed about abortion being a trap, exploiting women. Touch on the importance of healing in the black family.

Onawu: We need to regain our dignity. The fact of the matter is we have lost self respect. We have been conditioned to believe that we have no future unless we remain dependent of the county and state. We have patterned ourselves by allowing The Margret Sangers of the world to cheat us of our dignity and the right to life and family.

The Proclamation of Emancipation was signed into affect January 1, 1863 by President Abraham Lincoln…but we are still in bondage to think we will never be any better. We must know that the abortion industry was designed to eradicate black people as a race. Without our children we have no future. We are erasing our scientist, doctors, teachers, leaders and so forth. Healing brings on the continuing of love, hope and success in our communities to share with other races as well.

We need very much to return to respecting the wisdom of our elders and embrace them with respect; for they were our guides that kept us on track with prayer and experience. We can have laws changed but without a change of heart the laws will be hard to enforce. Some one must lay their lives down as Dr. King did for human rights, whether they are still in the matrix or born into this world. A quote from the bible says it best: “Open your mouth for the speechless, in the cause of all who are appointed to die. Open your mouth, judge righteously and plead the cause of the poor and needy.” (Proverbs 31:8-9) NKJ bible.

As Terrible as it May Sound – Understanding the Widespread Indifference to Black Abortion Rates

Tuesday, February 3rd, 2015

By: Kevin Burke, LSW and Dr. Alveda King

In The Chicago Tribune (April 25, 2011) Dennis Byrne used a billboard controversy in Chicago as an urgent plea to move beyond the polarizing abortion rhetoric and take a closer look at abortion in the African American community.

The billboard features a picture of President Barack Obama and proclaims:

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“Every 21 minutes our next possible leader is aborted.” It’s part of a national campaign that states that “Black children are an endangered species.”

It’s hard to argue with the facts.

The Shockwaves of Abortion have especially devastated the African American family. According to the Census Bureau, the rate of abortions in 2006 among black women was 50 per 1,000, compared with 14 for white women and 22 for “other” women. In New York City, 6 out of every 10 unborn African Americans are aborted! Since 1973, 13 million African American pregnancies have been ended by abortion.

What is the public response to the alarming abortion rate, especially in places like NYC? The response is often indifference… and silence.

However, a response to Byrne’s Chicago Tribune article in the comments section is illuminative, because beneath this silence lie unspoken assumptions:

“Let them exercise their right to abortions. As terrible as it may sound, imagine the crime rates and social services that would be required in addition to all we already provide, if abortions didn’t happen in the black community.”

For many Americans, (particularly among non blacks) abortion is seen as an unpleasant but necessary solution to managing the birth rate in communities where the family is already on life support and city and state budgets for social services are pushed to the breaking point.

Missing the Post-Abortion Connection

The tragic mistake here is the failure to see the high price that minority communities pay for their high abortion rate. There is a dynamic and toxic synergy at work in the after-effects of the abortion procedure interacting with and intensifying the ongoing social problems that plague these communities. How does the experience of abortion make black women, their living children and relationships more vulnerable to ongoing dysfunction, exploitation, poverty and abuse?

In Forbidden Grief: The Unspoken Pain of Abortion, Dr Theresa Burke reveals that for many women, while abortion may initially appear to solve the problem of an unplanned pregnancy, the unfolding consequences of the procedure can be devastating. This is especially true for women who have a previous history of sexual, emotional/physical abuse. Dr Burke found that in her work with thousands of post abortive women, this population with previous abuse/trauma had a higher rate of depression, anxiety, relationship instability, and parenting problems after their abortion.

If we look at the rate of sexual abuse among Africa Americans, we find a group of women that is especially vulnerable to post abortion complications:

* 1 in 4 women, 3.3 million African American women have been sexually abused.
(No Secrets No Lies: How Black Families Can Heal from Sexual Abuse, Robin D. Stone)

How does previous abuse intensify post abortion symptoms and complicate post abortion recovery?

Dr Burke shares in Forbidden Grief that the invasive and painful experience of the abortion procedure serves to re enact the physical and emotional violation of previous sexual abuse. After the abortion the women experiences a powerful resurgence of the repressed shame, anxiety, and grief of that previous exploitation. The common coping mechanism for this unleashed traumatic emotion…addictive substances, impulsive acting out in relationships, episodes of rage and grief.

We think that abortion will protect an African American woman from the challenges of single parenthood, or the burden of additional mouths to feed. But this is a suicidal trap for the black community.

Abortion creates emotional, spiritual and physical wounds and vulnerabilities that only exacerbate pre existing abuse and other trauma and makes women more vulnerable to ongoing exploitation, dysfunction and abuse and in their relationships.

We know that this instability and dysfunction in relationships leads to breakdown in family life, leaving children vulnerable to predatory relatives, partners and friends. The cycle continues…more abuse, more trauma, more abortions, more death.

Multiple Abortions

When a woman has her first abortion, and is unable to find emotional and spiritual healing of that loss, she is more likely to find herself on the abortionist table again. The most recent statistics from the Alan Guttmacher Institute reveal that 47% of abortions are repeat procedures. Many see this as callous irresponsibility on the part of minority women (though repeat abortion statistics are consistent among other nationalities.)

But there is a tragic psychological drama unfolding in the lives of these post abortive women. Dr Burke explored the dynamics of repeat abortions in her international clinical experience. She discovered that abortion in these cases becomes part of an unconscious process to gain mastery over the experience and feelings associated with the initial abortion trauma…to feel a sense of control, and over time, detached indifference.

But this traumatic mastery comes at a high price as emotional and relational dysfunction flourish in these women’s lives. (This reveals the importance of emotional and spiritual healing of this loss, for women and men in programs like Rachel’s Vineyard. Obviously we want to prevent abortions if at all possible. However, if there is an abortion, healing resources are essential after that initial procedure to prevent multiple abortions and deepening dysfunction.)

The Cycle of Death

This cycle of death and destruction in the African American community will never end as long as abortion is seen as an acceptable way to respond to an unplanned or unwanted pregnancy. It is indeed challenging to face the scope and complexity of the problems facing our poor minority communities. It is tempting to see abortion as a cost effective and even compassionate short term solution to these problems:

“As terrible as it may sound, imagine the crime rates and social services that would be required in addition to all we already provide, if abortions didn’t happen in the black community.”

As terrible as it may sound?…it’s even worse than it sounds.

Abortion, far from being a cost effective solution is in effect accelerating the devastating implosion of poor minority communities.

Dr Alveda King, Niece of Dr Martin Luther King, Jr. and other influential African American leaders, are pointing to the film Maafa21 produced by Life Dynamics as proving factual evidence that this implosion in poor black communities is rooted in a well planned and orchestrated strategy of genocide by the eugenics movement. Blacks, the poor and other minorities are at the top of the list for elimination, or at the very least reduction of their populations by abortion. If you think this is crazy conspiracy thinking, please take the time to view this powerful film and remember that 6 out of 10 unborn black children die by abortion in New York City alone.

Justice for All

In her book KING RULES, Dr. Alveda King shares her own testimony not only of abortion, but of healing and God’s forgiveness. She also often quotes her uncle Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., when she addresses the issue of abortion:

Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere. – Martin Luther King, Jr.

Targeting vulnerable minority communities with birth control and abortion services has decimated the black community. But genocide in any form is an injustice to our society as a whole and threatens the fundamental and inalienable rights and liberties endowed to all of us by our Creator.

A just and compassionate society must find solutions that value the lives of African American unborn children and the health and welfare of their parents and communities. Abortion is not the answer.

Dr. Alveda King is the daughter of the late civil rights activist Rev. A.D. King and his wife Naomi Barber King, and serves as a Pastoral Associate and Director of African-American Outreach for Priests for Life and Gospel of Life Ministries. Kevin Burke, LSW is the co founder of Rachel’s Vineyard Ministries, also serves as a Pastoral Associate with Priests for Life and is the author of Redeeming A Father’s Heart.

State of the Union Address Offers More Death for Babies

Thursday, January 22nd, 2015

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“The Negro cannot win if he is willing to sacrifice the future of his children for personal and immediate comfort and safety.” Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

President Obama, in his State of the Union address last night, said, “If we’re going to have arguments, let’s have arguments. But let’s make them debates worthy of this body and worthy of this country. We still may not agree on a woman’s right to choose, but surely, we can agree it’s a good thing that teen pregnancies and abortions are nearing all-time lows, and that every woman should have access to the health care that she needs.”

What the President didn’t say is that abortion and abortifacients are not health care. They are reproductive deterrents that kill babies and sometimes their mothers. Abortion often hurts women. In RECALL ABORTION, Janet Morana outlines the harmful impact of abortion, and #healingtheshockwavesofabortion further reveals why the President’s agenda isn’t good for women.

Senator Joni Ernst (IA), in the Republican response to the President’s speech, listed what the new Congress intends to do for life, saying: “And we’ll defend life, because protecting our most vulnerable is an important measure of any society.”

There is a shift in our political climate. We must pray for transformation of hearts. In my KING RULES “Defend Life” chapter, the sanctity of life is highlighted.

I am so glad that my parents AD and Naomi King didn’t take the advice of “The Birth Control League” which later became “Planned Parenthood;” they chose life for me instead.

My grandfather Daddy King convinced my mother that because he had seen me in a dream three years before my conception, he knew that God wanted me to live. Mother accepted his promise to be there for her. He kept his word.

If Granddaddy were here today, he would urge us to pray for our government and all leaders, that God will guide them into serving with grace, peace, faith, hope and love. Amen

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