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In Time For Father’s Day, A New Focus On Men And Abortion

Monday, May 19th, 2014

SNMAC

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
May 19, 2014

Contact: Leslie Palma
347-286-7277

Turning the Hearts of Fathers is a new initiative of the Silent No More Awareness Campaign to enlist church leaders to share the good news of forgiveness and recovery to men who have experienced abortion loss. Silent No More is a joint campaign of Priests for Life and Anglicans for Life.

The new project has been launched in time for Father’s Day, because men who have lost a child or children to abortion are often more acutely aware of that loss on the holiday that celebrates children’s love and gratitude for their fathers.

“We have learned from fathers who have taken part in an abortion that their experience damaged them as men,” said Kevin Burke, Pastoral Associate of Priests for Life and coordinator of Turning the Hearts of Fathers. “Abortion attacks the fundamental nature of the gift men bring to the family: a father’s love and protection of the children entrusted to his care. Violating this fundamental law of God can later weaken men in their vocation as husbands, fathers and spiritual leaders at home, in church and in their communities.”

Burke said priests and ministers are often wary of addressing the subject in their ministry and preaching for fear of hurting or alienating those in the congregation who have lost children to abortion. Turning the Hearts of Fathers addresses these concerns with information and resources to reach out with sensitivity and effectiveness. At the website FatherhoodForever.org, clergy will find resources to help them preach about the topic, announcements that can be included in the weekly bulletin and information on abortion recovery programs.

“What a great blessing it will be for our families, churches and nation when the millions of men involved in abortion decisions turn to Christ for healing and restoration,” Burke said.

Father Frank Pavone, National Director of Priests for Life and Pastoral Director of the new initiative, noted that the participation of priests and ministers across the country is vital for the project to succeed.

“Many aspects of abortion are very sensitive, but that doesn’t mean they should be ignored,” Father Pavone said. “The impact of abortion on the lives of our people is all the more reason a shepherd must pay attention to these wounds. Ministry involves confronting problems that provoke emotions. Ministry regarding abortion involves nothing less than life and death.”

For interviews with Kevin Burke, Father Pavone or a father willing to speak on the record about his abortion loss, contact Leslie Palma at 347-286-7277 or leslie@silentnomore.com.

Since the launch of the Silent No More Awareness Campaign in 2003, 5,715 women and men have shared their testimonies publicly at over 1,325 gatherings in 48 states and 17 countries. More than 14,979 people representing 77 countries are registered to be Silent No More. Raising awareness about the hurtful aftermath of abortion and the help that is available to cope with the pain are two of the Campaign’s goals. The Campaign has over 2,014 testimonies posted here, with over 293 that are shared via video!

The Silent No More Awareness Campaign is a joint project of Anglicans for Life and Priests for Life. For more information, please visit our website

www.SilentNoMoreAwareness.org

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Where is the Love? Rolling Stone, Planned Parenthood and Overzealous Pro-Life Camp Controversy Pours Salt on Old Wounds

Wednesday, March 5th, 2014

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When Rolling Stone magazine published Lauren Rankin’s “The Seven Most Common Lies About Abortion”, what we discovered was a misstatement of the position of the reasonable voices of proponents of life and natural women’s health. Among the so called “lies” the article lists are “Abortion causes breast cancer,” “Most women regret having an abortion,” and “Abortion is psychologically damaging to women.”

If you read the article, you will discover that there is a lot of pain and frustration on both sides of the line. The pro-choice voices believe that they represent the reproductive rights of the women who go there to the abortion clinic to be rid of the lives in their wombs. The pro-life voices believe that they are there to protect the women and their babies. One thing that both sides get right; women need respect and protection; but from what? And where are the civil rights for the babies and even the fathers? Most importantly, where is the love?

Here is the truthful platform of pro-life combined with pro-women advocacy groups:

Many women regret abortions. I am one of the women who experienced abortion and live to regret it.

Abortion and carcinogenic birth control – more appropriately termed “fertility blockers” are linked to breast cancer.

In many cases, abortion has been found to be linked to cases of suicide, depression and other psychological disorders.

In many cases where physical and psychological issues are noted in post-abortive women, it is often also noted that no such issues were present in the lives of these mothers prior to their abortions.

Added to these facts are the truth that fathers also suffer damaging psychological effects after their children are aborted.

In her book RECALL ABORTION, Janet Morana uncovers the duplicitous agenda of the pro-abortion industry, debunking lies such as those told by Rolling Stone and Planned Parenthood.

SNMA spokesman Kevin Burke and Oil of Joy Ministries have documented case studies of links to abortion and incarceration.

Planned Parenthood, the nation’s largest abortion is often behind many reports and studies such as this one by Rolling Stone.

What Planned Parenthood and their advocates refuse to admit is that abortion numbers in New York and Mississippi are upside down with more African American babies being aborted than born. In 2010 in Georgia, my home state, 53% of all abortions were on Black mothers and babies; with a distant 23% on Hispanic minorities, and 24% on Caucasian and “others.”

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Finally, let’s remember that the driving force behind the HHS mandate which seeks to force tax payers and the working class to fund fertility blockers and easy access to abortion is Planned Parenthood’s never satisfied lust for our money and our blood.

These lies of the abortion industry hide behind clever promises to end poverty and improve our quality of life. As Father Frank Pavone often asks: “How can killing the poor serve the poor?” He has been reminding us for years that “we are our brothers’ keepers.” I add that we are also our sisters’ and our daughters’ keepers. I don’t know about you, but my daughters and granddaughters; my sons and grandsons need good jobs and good education; not the pain and suffering that are often linked to abortion and carcinogenic birth control.

Let’s end the word games and face the facts. Abortion kills babies and hurts mothers and fathers. Stop the lies. Defund Planned Parenthood. Stop the HHS Mandate. Recall abortion. Let’s make love and life, not war on the wombs of women.

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Every Baby has a Mother, and a Father

Monday, May 6th, 2013

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The Chris Evert and Jimmy Connors story is a chilling reminder that aborted babies have two parents. The two tennis greats are in the news because of their abortion years ago. Not her abortion, their abortion.

How many fathers are denied the opportunity to see their children whose mothers chooses to abort when the fathers don’t agree? The law gives the father no choice even though 23 of the chromosomes of the aborted baby belong to him.

Many people say that men should stay out of the abortion debate; that it’s none of their business; that they have nothing to do with what a woman does with her body.

Just like the Kermit Gosnell murder trial opened a can of worms that the abortion industry did not want opened, the Conner/Evert situation is proof of another can that needs to have the lid snapped right off.

For 40 years women have been having legal abortions and there have been many situations where the woman is forced or coerced into having an abortion against her will. But there have also been cases where the fathers did not want their baby aborted but were told it was not their decision, their choice to make.

Coming out in the news yesterday was an article on TVNZ about Chris Evert, the tennis star, blasting her former beau, Jimmy Connors, for writing in his book about the abortion that he blames for breaking them up in the 1970s. He wrote that his response [to learning that she wanted an abortion] was: “‘Well, thanks for letting me know. Since I don’t have any say in the matter, then I guess I am just here to help’.

As more time since the passing of Roe v. Wade goes by, more and more men are stepping forward to talk about their abortions and the consequential collateral damage they have experienced.

Some of these testimonies can be heard at the men’s link at Silent No More Awareness Campaign.

Rachel’s Vineyard, a ministry of healing after abortion, has also seen an increased participation by men in their weekend healing retreats. In fact, the need for healing for post abortive fathers has grown so much that they now have a page dedicated to men and abortion.

As I often say, abortion hurts women and men. The “and men” should not be an afterthought because the reality is that while men may not be able to get pregnant or carry an unborn baby, the loss of their children is just as real and the pain of that loss can be just as devastating as it is for women.

Abortion is about the killing of a human life. Any participation in that killing or the inability to do something to prevent their child’s death can have traumatic effects on the life of the father as well as the mother.

As Kevin Burke, co-founder of Rachel’s Vineyard wrote on May 4, 2011 in his story of celebrity Steven Tyler’s abortion:

“The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders defines a traumatic event as follows: “1. The person experienced, witnessed, or was confronted with an event or events that involved actual or threatened death or serious injury, or a threat to the physical integrity of self or others. 2. The person’s response involved intense fear, helplessness, or horror.”

“Those who support abortion rights assure us that post-abortion complications are a myth. But Steven Tyler cuts through this fog of denial and lays it on the line: Jesus, what have I done?

“This is the cry of a post-abortive father whose very intimate exposure to the reality of abortion fits the textbook definition of trauma — as set down by the very same American Psychiatric Association that assures us abortion is a safe procedure with no negative effects on a man’s or a woman’s mental health.”

I thank God that the father of my fifth child said “no” to my having another abortion. He knew that 23 of the chromosomes were his and he wanted them to be given life in the baby I was carrying. My grandfather agreed with him.

While these two men didn’t have wombs, they had a stake in the life of the baby. Connors’ pain is telling us something. Every baby has a mother and a father.

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Silent No More Awareness Campaign Launches ‘Men Regret Lost Fatherhood’

Wednesday, April 3rd, 2013

SNMAC

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
April 3, 2013

Contact: Leslie Palma
347-286-7277

The Silent No More Awareness Campaign has launched Men Regret Lost Fatherhood, a new initiative for men who have taken part in an abortion and are coping with feelings of remorse.

Beginning today, visitors to SilentNoMoreAwareness.org can click on the photo icon for “Men and Abortion” at the top of the page to be taken to the new platform, which offers resources, information and support for men who regret their lost fatherhood.

“Our goal is to reach out to broken and hurting fathers who regret lost fatherhood and are searching for help,” said Kevin Burke, LSW, a pastoral associate with Priests for Life and Silent No More, and the co-founder of Rachel’s Vineyard Ministries. “Experience has shown that many men hurting from the loss of a child to abortion think they are alone in their suffering. The new platform is a way of increasing our message for men who come to the Silent No More Awareness Campaign that they are not alone, that healing is available and they are an essential part of our overall outreach.”

Silent No More co-founders Janet Morana and Georgette Forney decided to launch Men Regret Lost Fatherhood in April to coincide with Abortion Recovery Awareness Month.
“No matter what role men had in an abortion – whether they suggested it, supported it, insisted on it or stood silently by – the feelings they experience afterward can leave them uncertain of where to turn for help,” the co-founders said. “Our hope is that Men Regret Lost Fatherhood will be where they come to find validation of their feelings after abortion and resources for recovery.”

The Silent No More Awareness Campaign was founded in 2002. Since then, its public gatherings – including the March for Life in Washington D.C. – have included the testimonies of an increasing number of men. With Men Regret Lost Fatherhood organizers hope to call more men like Matt Clinger to share the truth of their abortion loss.
“I lost the chance to be a father twice because I was not man enough to stand up for my children in the womb,” said Matt, who serves as a spokesman for the Campaign. “I medicated the shame I felt from the abortion with alcohol, pornography and a trail of dishonesty. But today, with the thought of my two children rooting me on, I am hoping to reach out to other men who are still suffering in silence.”

The new platform is an outgrowth of the Fatherhood Forever Foundation, which was founded in 2005 by Jason Baier, a post-abortive father who recognized that men like him had few places to turn for help.

“Our hope is that the international scope of Silent No More will help us reach all the men who regret their lost fatherhood with a message of hope and healing,” Burke said. “Pro-choicers tell us that abortion is a woman’s choice, but two people created that life, and both of them, along with their unborn children, suffer the consequences of that choice.”

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Since the launch of the Silent No More Awareness Campaign in 2003, 5,612 women and men have shared their testimonies publicly at over 1,195 gatherings in 48 states and 10 countries. More than 12,865 people representing 77 countries are registered to be Silent No More. Raising awareness about the hurtful aftermath of abortion and the help that is available to cope with the pain are two of the Campaign’s goals. The Campaign has over 1,718 testimonies posted here, with over 214 that are shared via video!

The Silent No More Awareness Campaign is a joint project of Anglicans for Life and Priests for Life. For more information, please visit our website: www.SilentNoMoreAwareness.org

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