Lonely People

On a recent visit to the Sunlight Maternity Home in Florida, I was inspired by the director there to write about the loneliness women feel, that sometimes leads us to “unplanned choices.” We know that abortion really doesn’t give a woman a choice, it brings pain to the woman, and death to the baby… Even the dads of the babies are hurt one way or the other. They lose their seed even if their hearts are not immediately broken.

Loneliness and Longings of the Human Heart: Let Jesus fill your cup!

Women often choose “dead end” relationships with the biological dads of their children because of the “deep loneliness” they feel. The need to be touched, to be close leads some down a sad path…

Women and men often seek physical answers to spiritual loneliness. In the book THE SEVEN LONGINGS OF THE HUMAN HEART, authors Mike Bickle and Deborah Hiebert explain how loneliness can be ultimately answered by God’s love. The answer seems so simple, that people don’t have the faith and trust to try Jesus!

After defining the Nature of Longing, the authors list and discuss the seven longings:
1. The longing to be enjoyed by God
2. The longing for fascination
3. The longing for Beauty
4. The longing for greatness
5. The longing for intimacy without shame
6. The longing to be wholehearted
7. The longing to make a deep and lasting impact

Friends, I too have longed for all of this, and am experiencing an increasing measure of fulfillment in my walk with God! For instance, my pastor has asked that those of us who desire a serious increase in success in our lives listen to 50 chapters of the Bible every day. For me, I intersperse the chapters throughout a busy day, some in the morning, some mid-day and some before I sleep at night. The Word of God fills the lonely places! Then, just the time looking at the stars, the sky, the gifts all around us, in nature, in the smiles of our children, oh my! Even if we don’t have children, we have God’s love! Really!

In praying this adaptation of the Litany of Humility, following Jesus’ instructions to pray to Father (or ABBA) God and not to Jesus, (John 16:23, and Matthew 6:9) I find that loneliness flees even further away. Please, if you are lonely, drink from the fountain of God’s love and be refreshed!

Adopted from Litany of Humility by Merry Cardinal del Val, secretary of state to Pope Saint Pius X from the prayer book for Jesuits, 1963.

ABBA Father, who gives us your Divine Love, and Your gift of the Holy Spirit, to You who are Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, we give you praise. Hear and answer our prayer oh Father…

From the desire of being esteemed, Deliver me, Heavenly Father.
From the desire of being loved, Deliver me, Heavenly Father.
From the desire of being extolled, Deliver me, Heavenly Father.
From the desire of being honored, Deliver me, Heavenly Father.
From the desire of being praised, Deliver me, Heavenly Father.
From the desire of being preferred to others, Deliver me, Heavenly Father.
From the desire of being consulted, Deliver me, Heavenly Father.
From the desire of being approved, Deliver me, Heavenly Father.
From the fear of being humiliated, Deliver me, Heavenly Father.
From the fear of being despised, Deliver me, Heavenly Father.
From the fear of suffering rebukes, Deliver me, Heavenly Father.
From the fear of being calumniated, Deliver me, Heavenly Father.
From the fear of being forgotten, Deliver me, Heavenly Father.
From the fear of being ridiculed, Deliver me, Heavenly Father.
From the fear of being wronged, Deliver me, Heavenly Father.
From the fear of being suspected, Deliver me, Heavenly Father.

That others may be loved more than I, Heavenly Father, grant me the grace to desire it.
That others may be esteemed more than I, Heavenly Father, grant me the grace to desire it.
That, in the opinion of the world, others may increase and I may decrease,
Heavenly Father, grant me the grace to desire it.
That others may be chosen and I set aside, Heavenly Father, grant me the grace to desire it.
That others may be praised and I go unnoticed, Heavenly Father, grant me the grace to desire it.
That others may be preferred to me in everything, Heavenly Father, grant me the grace to desire it.
That others may become holier than I, provided that I may become as holy as I should, Heavenly Father, grant me the grace to desire it.

Love

“Love is patient, is kind; love does not envy, is not pretentious, is not puffed up, is not ambitious, is not self-seeking, is not provoked; thinks no evil, does not rejoice over wickedness, but rejoices with the truth, bears with all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. (1 Cor. 13:4-7).

To have Love is to love God above all things for Himself and be ready to renounce all created things rather than offend Him by serious sin. ( Matt. 22:36-40)

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