Here is a combination book/movie review in this blog. Stay tuned for more because Star Trek is coming! Yaayyyyyyyyyy!
Obsessed, Unhooked and Unprotected? Get Hooked!
2 Chronicles 7:14 If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.
This really happened! A group of “girls” aged 59, 47, 24 and 13 went to the movie “Obsessed.” By the way, the movie had some really good points in that Beyonce stayed dressed the whole time, and yet, was as sexy as ever. The man who portrayed her husband was very good looking, yet he didn’t flash any skin either, and he stayed dressed the whole time too. Their love scenes were reminiscent of the days when much was left to the imagination, leaving more time for the overall plot. While the profanity was minimal, and I must admit I could relate to the “B” word regarding the naughty protagonist, a psychotic woman trying to seduce Beyonce’s husband, the movie would have been even better without any cursing. They were a loving couple with a cute baby, and the wife was still pursuing her intellectual interests by going to school on line while being a wife and mother. They moved into a lovely home and were very romantic. A delusional woman tried to seduce the husband, but he was not in for it, and the Africana Woman/Wife had something to say about it too! Good for them! The main thing is that fidelity was rewarded, while lying, gossiping and cheating were shown to be very bad choices. The strong themes of marriage, family, fidelity and no divorce are highly applauded. I give many props to film pioneers Bishop T. D. Jakes and Tyler Perry along with Ted Baehr, Movie Guide, The Culture of Life Movement, the Marriage Commission and all the dedicated prayer warrior who are crying out to God according to 2 Chronicles 7:14 for being major influences in the culture shift. Of course, I give all the glory to God!
Supporting evidence that marriage, family and fidelity are good is available in some bookstores, but not so much in bookstores in African American neighborhoods. After the movie, we went to a bookstore in the same mall to find Hooked, Unhooked and Unprotected. These three books give the low down on sexuality and sexually transmitted diseases and other pertinent information. None of the books were available at the store, though they were available in the stores in the “white” neighborhoods. When the customer service agent at the store called to find out, we asked for the HIV/AIDS section. Would you believe that there was not one book on HIV/AIDS or any STD prevention books? But on the table in the recommended African American reading section, there were plenty of how to get hot sex tonight books. Really friends, it’s like the message is have as much sex as you can from wherever you can, then get AIDS and die. There is a concerted effort to keep Black people in the unenlightened state of purposeless living or more like intentional dying. Planned Parenthood has a lot of help in this climate.
One man saw us commenting and commiserated with us. He said his mother is a health professional, and she buys the same books we were looking for and gives them away for free. Good for her!
Anyway, here are some reviews on the books. Please read them!
Hooked by McIlhaney and Bush: Society tells us that sex is an act of self-expression, a personal choice for physical pleasure that can be summed up in the ubiquitous phrase: “hooking up.” Millions of American teenagers and young adults are finding that the psychological baggage of such behavior is having a real and lasting impact on their lives. They are discovering that “hooking up” is the easy part, but “unhooking” from the bonds of a sexual relationship can have serious consequences. A practical look into new scientific research showing how sexual activity causes the release of brain chemicals which then result in emotional bonding and a powerful desire to repeat the activity. This book will help parents and singles understand that “safe sex” isn’t safe at all; that even if they are protected against STD’s and pregnancy, they are still hurting themselves and their partner.
Unhooked by Stepp: From the front lines of today’s sexual battlefield comes an eye-opening examination of the hookup culture, seen through the personal experiences of the teenage girls and young women who live it-and who are left unprepared for its consequences. The Pulitzer Prize-winning author presents a disturbing and enlightening indictment of the hookup culture, the social forces that contribute to it, and what can be done to change it.
Unprotected by Grossman: Here are important facts you must know about well-intentioned counselors who are more committed to political correctness than to students’ physical and psychological safety—written clearly and passionately by a dedicated psychiatrist. This book tells all. — Nicholas A. Cummings, Ph.D., Sc.D., Former President, American Psychological Association; Distinguished Professor, University of Nevada, Reno; President, Cummings Foundation for Behavioral Health.
How could the so-called caring professions ostensibly dedicated to student welfare have collapsed so completely in the face of pressure from a particularly hurtful and wanton cultural fashion? This is surely one of the most important questions of our age, and it underlies this generous, tender, lively, angry book—written by a therapist who has fought her way through the dangerous pieties of her profession and whose newfound hope is everybody’s hope as well. — Midge Decter, author of Liberal Parents, Radical Children
This book is a thunderous call for a truly honest discussion in society, but more importantly, between college-bound students and their parents. It is one of the few books I have read that can be a light on the path to health for our society that is, in certain areas, the university in particular, very sick. It is an absolute must read. — Joe S. McIlhaney, M.D.
This is a punch-in-the-gut powerhouse of a book by a very brave clinician. The message is provocative and profound. . . . I wish others had the guts to speak out in a similar fashion. — Cal Colarusso, M.D., Training and Supervising Analyst, San Diego Psychoanalytic Institute