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The Suicide of Western Nations: The Abortion Connection

Thursday, September 15th, 2016

 

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By Kevin Burke, LSW

…I feel that the greatest destroyer of peace today is abortion, because it is a war against the child, a direct killing of the innocent child… – St Teresa, National Prayer Breakfast, February 3rd 1994, Washington D.C.

Mother Teresa’s comments bring to mind the sudden destruction of a child dwelling peacefully in its mother’s womb. We know that abortion also attacks the peace in the hearts and souls of parents and others that participate in the death of the unborn.

But is it possible for abortion to have an impact on a nation’s domestic and foreign policy…even armed conflict and war?

Immigration is a hot-button issue in the upcoming 2016 election and for many European countries – is there an abortion connection?

Can western nations with their high abortion rates, like individuals suffer from a collective trauma from abortion loss?

The Shockwaves of Abortion

Many of the leaders in business, academia, media and government in western nations have either personally experienced abortion or were part of abortion decisions and procedures. Countless others have been complicit in various ways in the death of millions of their own unborn citizens.

Health care professionals, counselors, educators and family and friends often remain neutral or advocate for abortion when a woman is discerning how to respond to an unplanned pregnancy.

Large segments of the population in western nations have lost an unborn son or daughter or other family members to abortion.  Many have participated in various ways in the death of unborn children (e.g., helping pay for a college roommate or sister’s abortion or driving a friend to the abortion center.)

Given the widespread impact of abortion in these countries, they are truly Post Abortive Nations.

Let first look at some relevant post abortion issues that individuals may experience that can help us understand the impact on entire nations:

We know that women who are traumatized by the procedure, especially those with previous abuse, can lose a sense of healthy personal boundaries and respect for their own bodies. This leads to self destructive and abusive behaviors and relationships.

– A common way that women and men can deny and displace their disenfranchised grief [1] from abortion is by involvement in various forms of political activism and charity work.  There is often an unconscious need to atone for the death of the unborn child that fuels their human rights and charitable activities such as advocating for victims of human trafficking, vulnerable children and the poor.  Others focus passionately on issues related to impoverished immigrant populations, animal rights and the environment.

– Abortion denial can be powerfully enforced by helping others facing unplanned pregnancy to be similarly “empowered” by having an abortion. On an international level activists with abortions in their personal history seek to expand access to abortion around the world with evangelical fervor.

The symptoms suffered after abortion are rooted in the inability to express and process the feelings and memories from the abortion event and come to a place of healing and peace. The heart of healing is a going through a safe process to express and process those painful feelings and memories, repentance of one’s role in the abortion and most importantly, reconnecting in love with the aborted child or children.

The Impact on Western Nations

Just as some women can struggle with personal boundaries and self destructive behaviors after abortion and other abuse, so too can a nation with its heritage, culture and borders.  Post Abortive Nations and their citizens can also share a collective unconscious need to atone for the death of their own unborn children.

This may contribute to a number of serious issues impacting western countries:

– Western nations are no longer preserving and valuing what is best in their culture and heritage as collapsing birthrates and uncontrolled immigration threaten the very existence of some countries.

– Post Abortive Nations are vulnerable to responding to humanitarian crisis and immigration issues in ways that place global and ideological concerns over the needs and rights of their own people.

– There has been a complete denial and repression of our need to individually and collectively mourn the death of close to 60 million unborn babies in the U.S. alone. Government officials and politicians become entangled in foreign conflicts and humanitarian crisis, nation building, and regime change (such as the U.S. in Libya) that may not be in the national interest  and often cause chaos and violence in the places of intervention.  While there are of course many factors, this collective repressed emotional grief may influence some of the decisions by high level government officials with personal abortion loss, or directly complicit in the death of aborted children.

– The excessive focus and at times obsession with the grievances and rights of those with same sex attraction and the growing transgender madness is at least partly fueled by this collective blindness to personal and national abortion grief.

– The U.S. seems to be losing its bearings. We stand back in disbelief at the acceleration of previously unheard of social engineering in our schools.  We have been grossly negligent and impotent as a society to stop the spread of pornography that threatens the moral and social foundation of our society.  Music and entertainment continues to glorify the ugliest excesses of a consumer culture that deifies personal gratification, is excessively violent, exploits women, and corrupts innocence.

Restoring National Sanity…Before It’s Too Late

The Supreme Court decision to legalize abortion has had far reaching effects on the citizens of the United States and all western nations.

This upcoming election here in the U.S. provides a clear and decisive moment when we can begin to retreat from the precipice of self-destruction.  It is time to stop the expansion of the culture of death, here and abroad, so our nation can begin to heal.

Urge your friends, family and colleagues at work to get to the polls this November 8th 2016, and vote for candidates that will protect our most vulnerable citizens in the womb.  Our nation’s survival may depend on it.

 

 

 

 

 

[1] Disenfranchised grief is grief that is not openly acknowledged, socially accepted or publicly mourned.

The Impact of Abortion on Poor Communities: Bridging the Gap Between Pro-Life and Social Justice Christians

Monday, September 12th, 2016

 

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By Kevin Burke, LSW

Kelly Rosati is the vice president of Community Outreach at Focus on the Family:

  … it often seems as if pro-life and pro-justice Christians come from    two different planets…They lean in different political directions, and each thinks the other should prioritize the issues differently…they have little interest in working together—and in fact, they can often seem “at odds” with one another. (Christianity Today)

Public Religion Research Institute’s 2012 American Values Survey, revealed the division between those who identify as social justice and right to life Catholics:

“Social justice Catholics” (60%): believe…the Catholic Church should focus more on social justice and the obligation to help the poor, even if it means focusing less on issues like abortion and the right to life.

“Right to life Catholics” (31%): believe that the Catholic Church should focus more on abortion and the right to life in its statements about public policy, even if means focusing less on issues like social justice and the obligation to help the poor.”

If social justice Christians of all denominations could see the dynamic connection that exists between abortion and the challenges faced by those suffering poverty and oppression, maybe it would help bridge the gap between Social Justice Christians and Right to Life Christians. They may come to see that pro life advocacy, abortion prevention, and healing after abortion are essential in communities ravaged by violence, family breakdown and social and economic injustice.

There are two populations served in abortion healing programs like Rachel’s Vineyard that can help us better understand this relationship of abortion and poverty:

  1. Minority female victims of sexual abuse and other trauma
  2. The Male Prison Population

Sexual Abuse, Traumatic Re-Enactment and Abortion

In Forbidden Grief: The Unspoken Pain of Abortion, Dr Theresa Burke reveals that while abortion may initially appear to solve the problem of an unplanned pregnancy, the unfolding consequences of the procedure can be devastating for women with a previous history of sexual, emotional and physical abuse.

Dr Burke shares in Forbidden Grief that the invasive and painful experience of the abortion procedure serves to re-enact the physical and emotional violation of previous sexual abuse and other trauma. After the abortion these women may experience a powerful resurgence of symptoms; addictions, impulsive acting out in relationships, episodes of rage, anxiety, depression, self-injury, nightmares and difficulty sleeping.

The Shockwaves of Abortion have especially devastated the African American family in the United States.[1]  Since 1973, 13 million African American pregnancies have been ended by abortion.  If we look at the rate of sexual abuse among Africa Americans, we find a group of women that is especially vulnerable to post abortion complications.  Statistics reveal that 1 in 4 or 3.3 million African American women have been sexually abused.[2]

It is indeed challenging to face the scope and complexity of the problems facing poor families. But abortion creates emotional, spiritual and physical wounds and vulnerabilities that only exacerbate a woman’s pre existing trauma.

Women are left more vulnerable to ongoing exploitation, dysfunction and abuse in their relationships. We know that this instability and dysfunction in relationships leads to breakdown in family life, leaving women and their children vulnerable to predatory relatives, partners and friends.

The cycle continues; more abuse, more trauma, more abortions, more death.

Abortion prevention and abortion healing – if possible after the initial abortion – is essential to help break dysfunctional patterns in the lives of the poor (including repeat abortions, which make up half of all procedures.)  The emotional and spiritual recovery process in abortion healing programs helps to significantly reduce destructive symptoms and behaviors and provide a foundation to build a healthier relationship with God, spouses/partners and living children.

Abortion Healing and Prison Ministry – Reclaiming Lost Fatherhood

The Diocese of Palm Beach has a vibrant prison ministry at the maximum security facilities in that area. Under the leadership of Catholic Charities and Donna Gardner, they began ministering to men with abortion loss in the prison population using a support group version of Rachel’s Vineyard along with exercises from the Healing a Father’s Heart bible study.

Initially, there was some understandable skepticism by prison ministry staff of the need for such a program given the very serious issues with which these men were already struggling.  What they quickly learned is that close to 90% of the inmates were part of abortion decisions in the past, and it did impact their lives in powerful ways.

The healing journey of the inmates has revealed something very important about the interaction of abortion with childhood loss. This has relevance to men outside the prison walls in our poorest communities who have been hurt by abusive or absent fathers, and those families where children were emotionally wounded when their parents divorced.

Here’s some of what these men have taught us:

–        The abortion healing journey provides a unique opportunity for those men who have unresolved rage and hurt from fathers who were absent and/or abusive.  Many inmates had fathers that failed to treasure them as sons and serve as good models of manhood/fatherhood.  You can think of this rejection as a type of emotional abortion.

–       A solid post abortion healing program allows the participant to progress through the steps of emotional and spiritual recovery so they can repent of their role in the child’s death and also are able to restore their fatherly relationship with the aborted child or children.

–  They invite the Holy Spirit into the dark wounds of their own fathers’ loss, abuse, or neglect.  As they address their abortion wounds men learn on a deep and intimate level how to grieve, within a process immersed in God’s Word, sacrament, and the Holy Spirit.

–        The post-abortion recovery experience empowers them to let go of the rage and unhealthy behaviors that were their only way of coping with their pain in the past.  They are restored and strengthened as men and fathers.

The Foundation of All Human Rights

The great mystery of our salvation in Christ Jesus begins at the Annunciation and the incarnation of the Word of God within the blessed womb of Mary.  How can the dignity and protection of the unborn child not be a priority for all Christians?

It is tragic when we fail to see the fundamental relationship of abortion to the serious problems that impact all of our families, but especially the vulnerable, the poor, and the minorities who have especially high abortion rates in their communities.

For the Christians to emphasize the foundational primacy of the right to life of the unborn in no way diminishes the value of ministry to the poor, sick, elderly, and disabled.  A society that protects its most vulnerable members and treasures the dignity of unborn children will be even more effective in building a just and compassionate church and society.

[1] According to the Census Bureau, the rate of abortions in 2006 among black women was 50 per 1,000, compared with 14 for white women and 22 for “other” women. In New York City, 6 out of every 10 unborn African Americans are aborted.

[2] Robin D. Stone. No Secrets No Lies: How Black Families Can Heal from Sexual Abuse. Harmony (March 8, 2005)

Abortion Doctors and Nazi Physicians: The Satisfaction of a Job Well Done

Tuesday, August 9th, 2016

 

Nazi Doctors

Psychiatrist Robert Jay Lifton interviewed 28 former Nazi doctors, including five who worked in the death camps.  Dr. Lifton also interviewed 80 Auschwitz survivors, including many who worked as prisoner-doctors along with the German medical staff.

One survivor asked Dr Lifton what kind of men the Nazi doctors were.

“Neither brilliant nor stupid,” Lifton sums up his reply, “neither inherently evil nor particularly ethically insensitive, they were by no means the demonic figures–sadistic, fanatic, lusting to kill–people have often thought them to be.” – The Nazi Doctors: Medical Killing and the Psychology of Genocide by Robert Jay Lifton

Dr Lifton in his study of Nazi doctors discovered that these men developed the capacity to separate the gruesome and disturbing aspects of their role as Nazi doctors, from their normal life as family members, husbands, wives and parents:

Dr Lifton: These doctors had not killed anybody until they got to Auschwitz, so they weren’t extraordinary killers to start with. They were ordinary people who in that way were socialized to evil… They did selections, they selected in the camps…In a sense, they ran the killing process… So when they were in Auschwitz they had an Auschwitz self…But they would go home to their families…and they would be ordinary fathers and husbands where they would function in a relatively ordinary way… (The Nazi Doctors: Medical Killing and the Psychology of Genocide by Robert Jay Lifton)

Normalizing the Abnormal

Dr Anthony Levatino is an ob-gyn and former abortionist:

Dr Levatino shares about performing a later term Dilation and Evacuation (D & C) procedure:

When the abortionist finishes a suction D & C, he has to open a little suction bag and he has to literally reassemble the child. He has to do that because he wants to make sure he didn’t leave anything behind.

Abortion doctors by necessity must disconnect from the larger moral and human reality of what they are doing.   An Abortionist is desensitized by repetition of the procedure to the human natural shock and horror of a dismembered baby, and over time is focused exclusively on a sense of professional satisfaction   that they have performed a successful procedure removing all the “products of conception.”  Medical professionals are especially vulnerable to such dissociation, as a detached technical focus is necessary to efficiently and accurately perform procedures.

The legality of abortion and training young physicians to perform the procedure legitimizes and normalizes what is a very un-natural event.

Dr Levitino:

My experiences are perhaps a bit more universal in terms of obstetricians and gynecologists in the country who were trained to do abortions during their residencies and then continued doing so as part of their private practice, but not the major part.

The social sanctioning of abortion exploits those ob-gyns who feel a professional responsibility to offer abortion services to their clients.

This socially sanctioned killing alongside of life affirming ob-gyn services further promotes this internal division within the soul and psyche of the abortionist.  Dr Levatino:

 There is no better news for me than to put that scanner on [a mother] at seven and eight weeks and show them a heartbeat and say: Your baby is okay. You do that as an obstetrician all the time.

And then, an hour later, you change your clothes, walk into an operating room and do an abortion.

Dr Levatino stopped doing abortions soon after the death of his young daughter in a car accident.  The shock of his daughter’s death somehow connected him to the humanity and value of those hundreds of children he destroyed in abortion procedures.

Tragically many abortion doctors fail to have this moment of enlightenment.   They remain numb and cut-off from the humanity of the child, the true nature of the procedure and their role in this death and destruction of human life.

The Price of Disconnection

There is a high price to for an abortion doctor who continues to function in a long term state of moral and spiritual disconnection:

Dr. Brewer…”when I was doing abortions, my life was in a shambles in terms of drugs, immorality and all the rest.” Abortionists, he said, “have marriages that are on the rocks…

Nita Whitten, working as a secretary in a Texas abortion clinic, became depressed and addicted to drugs. “I took drugs to wake up in the morning,” she said. “I took speed while I was at work. And I smoked marijuana, drank lots of alcohol….this is the way that I coped with what I did….” After having an abortion herself, she became severely depressed and at one point planned to commit suicide.(37)

Kathy Sparks, medical assistant at an Illinois clinic, thought she was not bothered by the blood and gore…But she… used alcohol and other drugs. Some other staff at her clinic were on drugs, she said, and several were alcoholics. – Ex Abortion Workers: Why They Quit

 Rationalized Justification of Evil

Dr Lifton found that the Nazi doctors thought of the prisoners as pre-dead. Every prisoner in Auschwitz was marked to die, they reasoned. They had no control over that. To experiment on their prisoner/patients was to bring some good out of those who were already sentenced to death. To select the old and weak for the gas chambers was actually a form of compassion because it spared them the more painful experience of starvation.

Amanda Marcotte at Slate defended Planned Parenthood after undercover videos revealed they were trafficking in the sale of baby body parts.  Marcotte tells us it’s ok to extract the organs or body parts from unborn boys and girls for medical sale and research because it’s what the parent wants.  They are going to die anyway so might as well derive some benefit, right?

Marcotte: We…shouldn’t deny women who want to donate fetal or embryonic remains to science any more than we would deny someone who wants to be an organ donor, even though the latter is also quite gross to ponder.

More from Amanda Marcotte at Slate:

Abortion is gross, no doubt about it. It becomes grosser the later in a pregnancy it gets. But so is heart surgery. So is childbirth, for that matter. We don’t deny people who need help in those cases because the help is gross.

Nazi doctors were seduced by the twisted philosophy of Hitler and other German racial purists. Dr Lifton revealed that these men felt called to be part of a great messianic medical mission – cleansing the body of the great German nation of the Jewish infection.

But this would require some messy and really gross medical work.

This soldiers who liberated Dachau discovered some pretty gross things:

The bodies of human beings were stacked like cords of wood… Human bodies neatly stacked, naked, ready for disposal. The arms and legs were neatly arranged, but an occasional limb dangled oddly…There was an aisle, then another stack, and another aisle, and more stacks… (Liberation of Buchenwald, by Harry J. Herder, Jr.)

Planned Parenthood’s  Dr Nucatola sharing over lunch about abortion techniques that aid in the extraction of baby body parts:

“We’ve been very good at getting heart, lung, liver, because we know that, so I’m not gonna crush that part, I’m gonna basically crush below, I’m gonna crush above, and I’m gonna see if I can get it all intact.”                                                                                                              

It’s ok…It’s legal!

The Nazi doctors were doing nothing illegal in Nazi Germany. The systemic destruction of the Jewish people, the mentally disabled and other enemies of the state was the socially sanctioned law of the land.

Samantha Allen at the The Daily Beast tells us not to get ourselves all worked up over the videos showing a Planned Parenthood doctor sipping wine as she casually discusses selling baby body parts.  It’s all perfectly legal…so everything is good:

But although Nucatola’s comments raise questions about the acquisition of fetal tissue and the ethical issues surrounding its collection, the transfer of human fetal tissue is not illegal in the United States. Women undergoing abortions sometimes choose to donate fetal tissue for scientific research and abortion providers do not facilitate these donations without their explicit consent.

The Light of Truth

Thankfully some physicians and abortion employees, such as Dr Anthony Levatino and the late Dr Bernard Nathanson are repenting and healing of their participation in the death of unborn children.

In January 2016 at the March for Life in Washington DC, Dr Levatino stood side by side with mothers, fathers, grandparents and siblings who have lost loved ones to abortion.  This powerful image of healing families and a society fractured and wounded by abortion, reflects a real hope that we can turn away from this darkness.

Pray we can soon come to recognize as a society that abortion is the ultimate destroyer of not only the innocent unborn, but the Shockwaves of Abortion exploit and injure all who participate in their death.

 

 

Tim Kaine’s Catholicism: Broken Glass and Broken Babies

Friday, July 29th, 2016

 

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Tim Kaine attended Mass at his home parish St Elizabeth’s in Richmond, Va. Kaine was asked to sing in the choir, and honored to perform a solo during the communion hymn.

Kaine’s pastor Fr Jim Arsenault had this to say about his famous parishioner:

I think Tim really extends a hand to help people and is very compassionate… I think he’d be concerned about that all lives matter…And he is a bridge-builder among races and communities.

Tim Kaine’s position on abortion? From National Review:

As a senator, he has received perfect, 100 percent scores from both Planned Parenthood and the NARAL…Some political observers are already hypothesizing that he might move even further to the left and embrace taxpayer funding of abortion…

Passive Complicity in Nazi Germany

On the night of November 9, 1938, all across Hitler’s Germany violence and terror were unleashed upon the Jewish people. Over a 48 hour period, more than 250 synagogues were burned, over 7,000 Jewish businesses were destroyed, and many Jews murdered…while community police and rescue workers did nothing to stop the carnage by Hitler’s thugs. ¹

  “The pogroms became known as Kristallnacht, the Night of Broken   Glass, for the shattered glass from the store windows that littered the streets.”   Shortly after Kristallnacht  30,000 German Jews were rounded up and sent to concentration camps. ²  The systematic terror and genocide against the Jewish people was underway.

The Nazi’s were masterful at the art of propaganda. Considerable groundwork was laid in the years leading up to Kristallnacht to create the conditions for the passive complicity evident in the police and firefighters who did nothing as Jews and their businesses were attacked.  Nazi propagandists prepared the German people for the Holocaust in a relentless campaign to dehumanize the Jewish person. Jews were labeled a disease or parasites; Hitler talked of the Jewish bacilli. Extracting and destroying this threat to the German nation was a necessary, noble and patriotic act.

The silence of the German Christian churches is a tragic and shameful chapter in the history of this period.  Victoria J. Barnett is a writer and scholar whose work examines the role of Christian Churches during the Holocaust. Barnet writes:

Churches throughout Europe were mostly silent while Jews were persecuted, deported and murdered…Church leaders…wanted to avoid any conflict with the Nazi regime… There was little desire on the part of the Churches for self-sacrifice or heroism, and much emphasis on “pragmatic” and “strategic” measures that would supposedly protect these institutions’ autonomy in the Third Reich. Public institutional circumspection carried to the point of near numbness…the Churches failed to develop adequate moral and political responses to Nazi genocide…they knew what was happening.

From Broken Glass to Broken Babies

The Pro abortion propaganda specialists, like their Nazi predecessors, understood the need to manipulate language to dehumanize those designated for death.

Terms pro abortion strategists developed to describe the unborn child:

– Products of conception

– Blob of tissue

– The fetus as part of the woman’s body and (echoing Nazi racial propaganda against the Jews)  describing the  relationship of mother and baby as that of parasite and host

In Nazi Germany, once the Jews were sufficiently dehumanized, they were subject to all manner of abuse, mistreatment and murder as well as inhumane and tortuous medical experiments.

Fast forward to the United States 2016.

From the same publicly funded organization that enthusiastically affirms Tim Kaine, Planned Parenthood abortion doctor Deborah Nucatola casually shares over lunch the market for aborted unborn baby organs:

“I’d say a lot of people want liver. And for that reason, most providers will do this case under ultrasound guidance, so they’ll know where they’re putting their forceps. The kind of rate-limiting step of the procedure is calvarium. Calvarium—the head—is basically the biggest part.” Nucatola explains, “We’ve been very good at getting heart, lung, liver, because we know that, so I’m not gonna crush that part, I’m gonna basically crush below, I’m gonna crush above, and I’m gonna see if I can get it all intact.” (LifeNews)

Collective Guilt

Fr Jim Arsenault of St Elizabeth’s:

The church has a teaching with regard to we’re pro-life, and we believe in that seamless garment of life. We respect sometimes lawmakers make difficult decisions.

The current high visibility of Tim Kaine and his pastor in the media shine an especially bright light upon the complicity of Catholics and all Christians in the death of innocent unborn children. Fr Arsenault hides behind the seamless garment of life to avoid holding parishioner Kaine accountable for his public support of Roe V Wade and promotion of legislation and laws that lead to the death of unborn children.  The legitimacy of the seamless garment that promotes the dignity of human life from womb to natural death – rests on the cornerstone foundation of all human rights – the right to be born.

But to be fair, many of us share in various ways the same blindness, passivity and complicity in the genocide against unborn children as well as other sins against justice and charity (Matthew 25: 31-46.) When history and God judges our nation in light of the death of nearly 60 million unborn boys and girls in the womb since 1973, that judgment will not fall on one Senator, one presidential candidate and one election.  The collective guilt and the blood of these innocent children is upon us all.

With that said, in this Year of Mercy it is not too late to repent and turn away from this darkness.  There is still time for the Church, and all believers and people of good will to send a clear message to both political parties this November:

– It is time to end our passivity and complicity in this our national tragedy of abortion.

– We will no longer tolerate the destruction of innocent unborn children.

– The seamless garment of life from womb to natural death rests on the cornerstone foundation of all human rights…the right to be born.

– We will hold our public officials accountable for how they legislate and vote on this foundational human rights issue.

– We will vote accordingly in November.

From the Catechism of the Catholic Church:

  • Human life must be respected and protected absolutely from the moment of conception. From the first moment of his existence, a human being must be recognized as having the rights of a person – among which is the inviolable right of every innocent being to life.
  • Formal cooperation in an abortion constitutes a grave offense. 
  • The inalienable right to life of every innocent human individual is a constitutive element of a civil  society and its legislation: (Sections 2270, 2272, 2273.)
  1. The Night of Broken Glass.  www.ushmm.org
  2. Ibid

 

Adam Silver and the NBA’s Double Standard in the Charlotte Decision: What About the Rights of Unborn African American Children in New York City, Headquarters of the NBA?

Friday, July 22nd, 2016

 

Beam in Eye

… first take the beam out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly how to remove the splinter from your brother’s eye. (Matthew 7:5)

In March 2016 North Carolina passed a law House Bill 2 (HB2), that said in schools and other public buildings, a person will use the bathroom or locker room determined by his or her biological gender at birth. It is estimated that about 0.2% of the population suffer with gender confusion and may identify as Transgendered.

The NBA was planning to hold its 2017 All Star Game in Charlotte. Adam Silver and the NBA, huddled together at their 5th avenue Manhattan offices and decided it’s time to take a stand for what they call the “core values of our league.”

“Since March, when North Carolina enacted HB2 and the issue of legal protections for the LGBT community in Charlotte became prominent…We have been guided…by the long-standing core values of our league. These include…diversity, inclusion, fairness and respect for others….”

The NBA concluded this law violated their “core values” and made the decision to pull their All Star Game from Charlotte and move it to another state.

The Beam in the NBA’s Eye

Over 75% of NBA players are African American. The NBA headquarters are located in New York City.

According to the New York City Department of Health and Mental Hygiene, in 2012 more unborn black were children lost to abortion (31,328) than were born (24,758.)   African American children comprised 42.4% of the total number of abortions in New York City.

Yet Adam Silver and the NBA decided that North Carolina is where they take a stand for what they see as a gross violation of the civil rights of 0.2% of people who suffer from gender identity confusion. Their core values are so deeply violated by HB2 that they decided to  humiliate and financially punish the city of Charlotte and the state of North Carolina.

From the Wall Street Journal:

The exit from North Carolina is a major blow for the state’s largest city, which stands to lose at least $100 million in economic benefits as a result, according to state Sen. Jeff Jackson, a Charlotte Democrat.

In the city where Adam Silver and the NBA have their corporate headquarters, nearly 6 out of 10 African American pregnancies are ended by abortion. Thirty thousand African American unborn boys and girls die each year in New York City alone.

Evangelist Alveda King, niece of Dr Martin Luther King and Director of Civil Rights for the Unborn, had this to say about the NBA’s decision:

Many of these little boys and girls would have been future NBA fans. A few exceptional athletes would have had the thrill of playing in a future All Star game. All of them, if allowed the basic civil right of being born, would have shared the same blessing that you and I enjoy each day in this great nation; the right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.

Instead of standing up for the civil rights of millions of unborn black children lost each year to abortion, and the suffering and devastation this brings to their parents and communities, the NBA decided to take the radical action of pulling their All Star game from Charlotte because of HB2.

Jesus had something to say about the blindness of the self-righteous:

And why do you look at the splinter in your brother’s eye, and not notice the beam which is in your own eye? Or how say to your brother, ‘Allow me to take the splinter out of your eye,’ while the beam is in your own eye?

First take the beam out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly how to remove the splinter from your brother’s eye. (Matthew 7:3-5)

 

 

 

 

 

How Abortion Led Us Down the Rabbit Hole of Transgender Madness

Monday, July 11th, 2016

 

…Alice ran across the field after [the rabbit], and fortunately was just in time to see it pop down a large rabbit-hole under the hedge. In another moment down went Alice after it, never once considering how in the world she was to get out again… Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland

 

On May 13, the Obama administration declared that every public school facility must give students access to all activities and facilities consistent with their gender identity.   The Obama White House wants our nation to follow Alice down the rabbit hole of transgender politics and bathroom insanity.

The majority of United States citizens are being forced to make radical and unsafe accommodations to the small number of individuals who suffer from gender confusion. As we shall see, other confused children and young adults are exploited by the propaganda of the transgender activists and become collateral damage in the culture wars.

Many have been surprised and alarmed at the rapid advance of this ideology of transgender rights. Yet, as with same-sex marriage, an increasing number of our fellow citizens see this as a natural progression in the development of a more inclusive, compassionate and just society.

How can we understand this rapid surrender to the ideologues and activists that are shaping our nation’s future?

It may be helpful as we mobilize to fight back against this madness, to step back and consider the broader issue of the origins and nature of sin and the critical role of abortion in creating a fertile soil for our current moral and spiritual confusion.

Justice Kennedy and the Serpent

Consider the words of Justice Anthony Kennedy in the 1992 Planned Parenthood vs Casey abortion case:

At the heart of liberty is the right to define one’s own concept of existence, of meaning, of the universe, and of the mystery of human life.

Justice Kennedy’s words echo back to that original rebellion against the providence of God:

The woman said to the serpent…God said, ‘You shall not eat of the fruit of the tree that is in the middle of the garden, nor shall you touch it, or you shall die.’” But the serpent said to the woman, “You will not die; for God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened,and you will be like God knowing good and evil.” (Genesis 3-4) 

The Genesis account reveals the origin of human sin and our ongoing temptation to reject God’s providence.  Kennedy’s comments suggest a perverted understanding of the nature of the “heart of liberty” as a type of deification of the autonomous self (“you will be like God.”)

The Transfigured and Disfigured Christ

Kennedy’s concept of human liberty presents a sharp contrast to the words of Jesus at the last Passover with his beloved apostles:

This is my body, given up for you.

And in the Garden of Gethsemane before his arrest:

Not my will Father, but your will be done.

Sin disfigures the human person and darkens the mind, emotions and conscience…but also the body.

The one who was transfigured in blinding light on Mount Tabor, very soon after would be disfigured beyond recognition by our sins. Jesus embraced his mission to heal the wounds of the human family inflicted by the serpent, and reconcile us to the Father.

The movie the Passion of the Christ and a close study of the Shroud of Turin, reveal in graphic and shocking detail the extent of the physical damage caused by the beatings, scourging, and crucifixion of Jesus. In the sadistic cruelty and humiliation inflicted on the sacred body of Jesus, we see how sin disfigures the image of God made flesh.  Sin has a similar effect on each of us, with effects both visible and hidden.

The Disfigured Body in the Abortion and Transgendered Movements

In the Genesis account we see that the temptation of the serpent was a carefully crafted lie.  His hidden agenda was to attack the intimate and holy relationship between man and woman and also the relationship with their Creator. The consequences of sin are confusion, disharmony, and spiritual and physical death.

Abortion, like the serpent’s temptation, was also founded on carefully crafted lies. The late Dr Bernard Nathanson, a former abortionist, and one of the founding fathers of the abortion revolution prior to his conversion, shares the truth:

We fed the public a line of deceit, dishonesty, a fabrication of statistics and figures. We succeeded [in breaking down the laws limiting abortions] because the time was right and the news media cooperated. We sensationalized the effects of illegal abortions, and fabricated polls which indicated that 85% of the public favored unrestricted abortion, when we knew it was only 5%. We unashamedly lied, and yet our statements were quoted [by the media] as though they had been written in law.’ (quoted in John Powell, Abortion: the silent Holocaust. Tabor, Allen, Texas. 1981.)

This campaign of deception set the stage for 1973 Supreme Court decision that legalized the widespread poisoning, dismembering and desecration of unborn children through all nine months of pregnancy.

The Planned Parenthood videos released by the Center for Medical Progress reveal the cold and calculated darkness that, over time, disfigures the hearts and minds of those immersed in this culture of death.

Planned Parenthood abortion doctor Deborah Nucatola casually shares over lunch the market for unborn baby organs:

“I’d say a lot of people want liver. And for that reason, most providers will do this case under ultrasound guidance, so they’ll know where they’re putting their forceps. The kind of rate-limiting step of the procedure is calvarium. Calvarium—the head—is basically the biggest part.” Nucatola explains, “We’ve been very good at getting heart, lung, liver, because we know that, so I’m not gonna crush that part, I’m gonna basically crush below, I’m gonna crush above, and I’m gonna see if I can get it all intact.” (LifeNews)

Transgender Abuse: “Healthy Organs Were Amputated”

Like the abortion rights revolutionaries, the transgendered movement is prepared to lie, manipulate information and language, and mutilate and sacrifice our vulnerable children and families to advance their radical agenda.

Dr. Kathleen “Kelly” Levinstein, PhD, is a Professor of Social Work at the University of Michigan, Flint.   Her research and advocacy work includes human and civil rights violations against the autistic community.

Dr. Levinstein shares a tragic and cautionary tale about the vulnerability of children with autism to the radical agenda of transgender activist in this account about her daughter who has undergone transgender medical transition:

My daughter, who is on the autism spectrum -When she was 16, she began watching a TV show called “Degrassi,” which featured an FtoM character. After a few weeks, she announced that she was not actually…lesbian, as she had previously said, but was in fact trans. She started attending a local PFLAG where she met many trans people, including a number of FtoM trans teenagers who were raving about a certain “gender therapist who gave my daughter the go-ahead to have a bilateral mastectomy after only two sessions. This gender specialist never reviewed any of the Special Ed records or spoke to my daughter’s previous therapist, who had known her for a decade.

The gender therapist (whom I believe has an unholy financial alliance with the surgeon) gave my daughter (then 18 and one day) the go-ahead for the $30,000 surgery (covered for all university employees and their families where I work). My daughter is now on testosterone (which she clearly is unable to evaluate the risks and consequences of)…

She has been taken advantage of. Healthy organs were amputated. This is insurance fraud, poor clinical practice, a violation of APA standards, unethical and unjust. It is a crime not just against women, but particularly against disabled women.

So many of these young women who are “transitioning” are also autistic.

Healthy organs of this autistic young woman were amputated.

Planned Parenthood harvests the healthy organs of unborn little boys and girls torn from the womb of their mothers.

The further we are removed from our moral and spiritual Judeo-Christian heritage and the absolute providence of our Creator over human life, the further we travel down the rabbit hole into cultural chaos and madness.

Finding our Way Home

“We have no government armed with power capable of contending with human passions unbridled by morality and religion. Our Constitution was made only for a moral and religious people.  It is wholly inadequate to the government of any other.” – Founding Father John Adams

The sexual revolution marches on emboldened by its victories to spread sexual immorality and abortion around the world. The goals of the revolution expand to redefine and deconstruct what it means to be human, male and female.

Now for Some Very Good News

After over 20 years in ministry around the world for those suffering after abortion, we have discovered some common themes in the healing journey. Abortion is a deep wound that intimately hurts women emotionally, spiritually and physically. When they attend a safe and effective healing program like Rachel’s Vineyard, this deep wound is cleansed, and the power of God begins to heal and renew broken hearts and troubled souls. They grieve and reconcile with God and their unborn children.

Men are also wounded by participating in the death of their unborn children. Their secret suffering is often rooted in the failure to defend and protect their son or daughter.  This can weaken them later as men and fathers.  The passivity of many men in our country to the advancing radical agendas of the same sex, abortion and transgender movements may be connected to their unresolved shame, grief and guilt from their abortion loss.    Reconciliation and healing strengthens men to embrace their role as spiritual leaders in their families and communities, rooted in Christ’s example of loving service and sacrifice for those entrusted to their care.

Just as abortion darkens the mind and conscience, healing the intimate wounds of abortion brings renewed light and moral clarity.

As women and men continue that process of emotional and spiritual growth and healing after abortion, they can better discern God’s will for their lives. With joy and gratitude, and a renewed and vibrant faith, they experience a call to loving service to others in their churches and communities.

There is a great harvest across our nation of those wounded by the Shockwaves of Abortion, and waiting to hear a message of liberating truth rooted in charity, compassion and love.

This humble but powerful army of those reconciled from their abortion loss can unleash a flood of grace upon this nation, and push back against the culture of death.

Its time to stop our nation’s descent down the rabbit holes of sexual revolution and transgender madness.

Let the healing begin!

 

Thinking of Sitting out this Election? You May Miss the Most Important Election in Our Nation’s History

Wednesday, June 29th, 2016

 

White House Lightening

So you’re disappointed with the current options for President of the United States.

You are thinking about either sitting out this election, or a write-in protest vote for someone with zero chance of victory.

See if any of the following apply to you:

– You believe our nation and its citizen’s benefit from a healthy tension between state and federal government powers and interests. However, states should not be bullied by the federal government for decisions best left to the elected representatives of each state.

– You are concerned about the erosion of religious freedom in your community and nation.

– You are alarmed by the aggressive promotion by the federal government and judiciary of sexual revolution, transgender bathroom insanity and abortion.

– You are getting tired of a national government that appears to be more loyal to the interest of global elites than to that of middle and working class families.

Our Wise Benevolent Overlords

Remain sober-minded and alert. (1Peter 5:8)

The mass media and the radical political and cultural elite see themselves as the wise benevolent rulers of the ignorant masses who are not as enlightened as themselves.  They use their considerable powers to manipulate public perception as we approach the November elections.  They focus excessively on peripheral issues and side-show theatrics while misrepresenting or ignoring the important policy positions of a candidate they oppose.  This can leave voters distracted disconnected spectators of a political reality show.

But now more than ever we need to remain “sober-minded and alert.” The stakes could not be higher.

Whatever a particular candidates shortcomings, the upcoming election is not so much about an individual. The next administration will make key judiciary appointments, including Supreme Court justices that will shape the court for generations to come. This election presents the opportunity to begin to turn back the radical anti-life and anti-human agenda imposed under force by an administration and judiciary committed to advancing the sexual revolution and the erosion of religious rights.

The Gathering Storm Clouds

Consider recent Supreme Court decisions and Obama administration directives:

-On June 27th ruling on the Whole Woman’s Health vs. Hellerstedt  case, the Supreme Court struck down a Texas law that the Governor and elected representatives of that state passed to protect women and their unborn children from predators like abortionist Kermit Gosnell.  Radical pro abortion ideology takes precedence over reasonable states rights and the health and welfare of Texas women and children.

– On June 28th the US Supreme Court denied to hear a case involving pharmacists in Washington State who, for religious reasons, declined to dispense Plan B, a contraception that can in some cases induce an early stage abortion of a fertilized human embryo.

Justice Samuel A. Alito Jr. in his dissenting comments said:

“…this court does not deem the case worthy of our time. If this is a sign of how religious liberty claims will be treated in the years ahead, those who value religious freedom have cause for great concern.”

– On May 13, the Obama administration declared that every public school facility must give students access to all activities and facilities consistent with their gender identity.  The majority of United States citizens are being forced to make radical and unsafe accommodations to the small number of individuals who suffer from gender confusion.

Let’s Realize What’s at Stake in this Election

– Will we remain a republic rooted in our Judeo Christian heritage and grounded in times tested principles of just and sound governance and a healthy relationship between state and federal powers?

– The victor in November’s presidential election will quickly form their administration and make future judicial appointments. Which candidate will put the interests of far left social justice warriors ahead of the real concerns of most of our nation’s hard working families?

– What future presidential administration will but the interest of United Sates families ahead of political and business leaders with no loyalty to our nation and it’s citizens? Who is more likely to advance the sexual revolution, especially abortion, and their twisted understanding of gender across our nation and world with an evangelical fury?

Don’t fall into the trap of looking for the perfect candidate.

Look beyond the hype and spin and see which candidate is most likely to form an administration and appoint federal and Supreme Court judges that will respect the constitution, not be allies of the sexual revolutionaries and abortion industry, and fairly balance state and federal interests.

Vote for a president and administration that will respect and protect the religious rights of all citizens, regardless of their faith, but will not be bullied by those who want us to abandon the treasure of our nation’s Judeo-Christian moral and religious heritage.

For if this is what is done to green wood, what will be done when the wood is dry? Luke 23:31

 

To Distracted to Feel: Cell Phone Addiction the Denial of Grief and Starvation of the Soul

Tuesday, June 28th, 2016

 

Cell Phone Addiction

Many miles away

Something crawls to the surface

Of a dark Scottish lake

Synchronicity II, Sting

CNN reports that fifty percent of teens and twenty-seven percent of parents feel they are addicted to their mobile devices.

Comedian and social critic Louis CK says we can turn compulsively to the distraction and superficial affirmation of the social media world to avoid looking at the darker places within.  In an appearance on Conan he shared about an experience driving with his cell phone, and the denial of grief:

You know, underneath everything in your life there’s that thing…You know, it’s down there. Sometimes when things clear away, you’re in your car and you go, oh, no, here it comes that I’m alone… But people risk ruining their own and taking a life because they don’t want to be alone for a second. I was in my car one time and Bruce Springsteen came on…I was listening to “jungle land”…And I go, OK, I’m getting sad. I’ve got to get the phone and write hi to 50 people…You know what, don’t. Just be sad.

Imagine a dank, moldy, musty basement where the windows have been sealed shut for years; no air and light can penetrate this darkness.

This is can be the condition of our hearts and souls after years of perpetual distraction and immersion in the demands of work and life routines, entertainment, and media. The nature of many modern jobs means that cell phones and ipads keep workers perpetually connected and accessible to their employers and clients. The 24/7 demands of some jobs leave little time to disconnect, to be emotionally present to loved ones, and refresh the soul.

From CNN:

GG Benitez, a mother of three, said that as the founder and chief executive officer of her own public relations firm, she feels the pressure to always be available due to the fear of losing any potential press opportunities for her clients…she said this constant need to be connected can be taxing. Yet, even when she tries to stay off her phone in the evenings for at least one hour, she has a tough time…”I had taken my son to a movie, and he turned around to me and said, ‘Are you serious, Mom? We are at the movies and you are still on your phone?’…”

Some of the latest research also suggests this immersion in the virtual world of social media, emails and texting may also be connected to the release of dopamine in the brain:

Holland Haiis, who wrote Digital Detox Program, shares:

“The dopamine in our brains is stimulated by the unpredictability that social media, emails and texting provide…”

This can leave us perpetually distracted and even serve as a type of self-medication for any painful or unsettling feelings and experiences we are trying to avoid.

Opening the Windows of Your Soul

As Louis CK points out, this addictive use of devices can also deny us the natural human experience of being deeply moved by something, and allowing powerful emotions to surface, even if they are initially painful. The body rewards the expression of grief with endorphins and the peace and relief that flows naturally from that process.[1]

Facing those dark areas in the deeper waters of our self can also lead us to ask questions about the ultimate meaning of our life, and contemplate important questions about our priorities and relationships. In our journey to those places of emptiness and sadness we may discover there is a hunger for a deeper meaning that can never be filled by entertainment and social media or pornography and drugs.

Experts suggest setting strong boundaries around the use of phones and ipads and replacing the dopamine rush of social media with a walk, jog or bike ride.  Taking time for meditation, contemplation and prayer will also help free our minds, souls and bodies from an unhealthy attachment to this virtual reality.

We may begin to recognize that we are actually spiritually starving and begin to make time to feed our souls with prayer, study and worship of the One who created us and gave us the gift of life.

Staying Numb and Distracted from Complicated Grief and Loss

We have learned from our over 20 years in ministry around the world in Rachel’s Vineyard that abortion is a deeply buried wound, and one that women and men will go to great lengths to repress and deny.   People expend a lot of psychic energy to keep the memories and feelings buried, but over time this exacts a high cost.

Perhaps this constant immersion in our devices is working hand in hand with this denial.   In such a constant state of distraction you may never have the space to make the connection between a struggle with addiction, relationship problems or anxiety and depression in your life, and an area of hurt or loss that is crying out for reconciliation and healing.

Abortion is not a normal experience of loss and grief. It is a complicated grief.   With a natural experience of death there are religious rituals, social supports, expressions of concern and compassion that all help in the grieving process.

But everything about the abortion experience conspires to feed this massive denial about what is a powerful and life-changing physiological, emotional and spiritual event.  The rationalizations in the decision making process, the misinformation about fetal development and the procedure and its aftermath, all serve to distance women and men from the deeper experience of an abortion and the impact on their hearts and souls.

The message women and men hear and absorb about their abortion from friends, family and society is: “stuff it, it’s a nothing, get busy, and move on with your life as quickly as possible.

Follow His Example

It is natural to feel anxiety and other painful feelings when we unplug for awhile and give some attention to our deeper selves. If you have experienced an abortion loss (or multiple abortions) and take some time to be alone, don’t be afraid when those powerful or conflicting feelings start to surface.

Feeling anxious, sad, guilty, confused, and angry about your abortion experience and wanting to avoid those feelings…is normal.  But the rewards and blessings of opening this wound to the light of healing far outweigh that initial pain and discomfort.

Even though the journey to healing may arise from a time of solitary reflection, you will need the encouragement and support of others who have made this journey before you, and know the safest and most effective way to recover from that loss.

You may be thinking, “Yeah sure that would be nice but I am way too busy, and I just can’t find the time.”

Consider the example of a man who was in constant demand by multitudes of his fellow countryman for his remarkable gifts of healing, deliverance and preaching:

Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed. (Mark 1:35)

And Jesus also respected when he needed to give himself some space to grieve a painful loss:

When Jesus heard [that John the Baptist had been beheaded], he withdrew by boat privately to a solitary place. (Matthew 14:13)

Consider if there is a need for more light and fresh air to flow into your life and less time spent immersed in those useful, but distracting gadgets.

Let’s put aside the phones and other devices, turn off the TV for a while, and follow His example.

 

 

[1] Dr. William Frey at the Ramsey Medical Center in Minneapolis discovered that reflex tears are 98% water, whereas emotional tears also contain stress hormones which get excreted from the body through crying. After studying the composition of tears, Dr. Frey found that emotional tears shed these hormones and other toxins which accumulate during stress. Additional studies also suggest that crying stimulates the production of endorphins, our body’s natural pain killer and “feel-good” hormones.” [Citation from:  Judith Orloth M.D.]

Dear Clergy and Ministers: Yes Abortion is a Sensitive Subject…But Mother’s Day is the Perfect Time to Share a Message of Consolation and Healing

Wednesday, May 4th, 2016

 

 

 

Preacher

Yes this is a very sensitive subject to introduce on Mother’s Day weekend. But it really is the perfect time. Women in your congregation who have had abortions may be experiencing various levels of regret and discomfort as our nation honors its moms.

The Silent No More Awareness Campaign through their Shockwaves Initiative has created a special section of prayers and preaching aids that can help you share a message of hope and healing at this time of year.

Please take a moment to read the prayers and review the preaching ideas for the Scripture readings used in Sunday services for the month of May.

Here is one of the prayers you will find on the Shockwaves website, developed by Fr Frank Pavone for mothers who have lost a child to abortion. Consider how simply sharing this beautiful prayer with your congregation would empower the Holy Spirit to open hearts and souls to the grace of reconciliation and a deeper healing of their loss:

Prayer for Mothers who have Lost a Child to Abortion

Lord of all Life, You have entrusted us to the care of one another, And called us to be one Body in Christ.

You call us to rejoice with those who rejoice, And to weep with those who weep.

Lord, you have compared the love you have for us To the love a mother has for her own child. Hear our prayer today For all mothers who have lost children to abortion. Help us to understand The pain that is in their hearts, And to be a living sign to them Of your welcome, your mercy, and your healing.

Help them to undergo with courage The process of grief and the journey of healing. Never allow them to feel alone; Always refresh them with the presence of Your Spirit And of their brothers and sisters in Christ.

Console them with the sure hope That you love and care for their children. Give them new strength, That even while they grieve what they have lost, They may look forward to all the good That you still have in store for them.

Lord of healing and hope, Give us all the forgiveness of our sins, And the joy of your salvation.

We ask this in the name of Jesus the Lord. Amen.

 

FDA Relaxes Restrictions on Abortion Pill: What Happens to a Couple When their Home Becomes an Abortion Clinic?

Monday, March 21st, 2016

 

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Under the cover of the uproar from Donald’s Trumps recent flip-flop comments on abortion, the New York Times reported about a much more serious concern for those who care about women and their unborn children:

    The Food and Drug Administration has relaxed the guidelines for taking a   pill that induces abortion, reviving one of the most contentious issues of the abortion debate. The change allows women to use the drug further into pregnancy and with fewer visits to the doctor…The change was an unequivocal victory for abortion rights advocates who had been fighting laws in Texas, North Dakota and Ohio, among other states, that require doctors prescribing the pill to follow the directions on the F.D.A. label for using it, which had been more stringent…Medication-induced abortions have increasingly been used to terminate pregnancies in recent years…They made up as much as a quarter of all abortions in 2011, according to the most recent figures from the Guttmacher Institute… Planned Parenthood said as many as half of eligible women in its clinics requested medication-induced abortions.

This has the potential to greatly expand the use of these medications that lead to the death and expulsion of a tiny unborn child in the first 10 weeks of pregnancy.

The FDA and the Obama administration do not share the physical and emotional experience of taking this medication. Please read and share this couples experience when their home and marital bed are transformed into an abortion center:

Abortion in the Home

A self described pro-choice woman and her husband describe their RU 486 abortion experience.  She was not prepared for the excruciating pain and emotional trauma of the procedure:

Her husband got her out of the tub, and into the bed…

It was then, with her husband lying next to her, that Kay says, “I went through the worst experience of my life.”

“After two hours of this,” Kay says, “I felt a rush of blood and a large lemon-sized clot came out. I assume that was the pregnancy. I was horrified. Why hadn’t anyone told me that it would be like this?”

Her husband cleaned the blood off her, cleaned up the towels, changed the sheets, dressed her because she was too weak from the pain.  (Lifesite News)

Copious amounts of blood cover Kay and stain the sheets of their marital bed where their tiny child was likely conceived. What was formerly a place of marital pleasure and joy becomes the setting where their child is painfully expelled from its mother’s womb.

The father of the child lies next to his wife during this nightmare.  He carefully attends to her and removes the bloody sheets…and we can assume disposes of their tiny son or daughter.

What was this man thinking and feeling as his wife went through this traumatic labor?  Might he have felt a sense of shame and guilt that their “choice” led to so much physical and emotional anguish for his wife?  Did he feel helpless and powerless as he witnessed what Planned Parenthood said would be a simple process turn into an unforgettable and traumatic nightmare?

It doesn’t really matter what this couples political and moral opinions are about abortion.  There are things more powerful than ideology and politics.  The intellect can rationalize about lost pregnancies and women’s rights.  But the painful truth of the heart and soul will not be denied.

Based on our professional experience with thousands of women and men after abortion let me offer some idea of what life may be like for this couple post RU 486:

They have both clearly experienced a traumatic event.  The home, which should be a peaceful refuge, will be a place that triggers anxiety and depression.   The marital bed will remain a place of death, and an unspoken sense of loss will permeate the bedroom and relationship.  The image and memory of that tiny “pregnancy” will rest there between them as they struggle to sleep.

Ongoing physical complications are possible.  Nightmares, insomnia, anxiety and depression are likely.  Sexual relations will be confusing and challenging.  Even when they are able to assume marital intimacy, they will need to dissociate from their feelings and go through the motions.

The unresolved feelings and memories will lead them to drink more, work more…whatever it takes to get away from the pain.  The distance will grow between them.

Over time this couple will be unable to meet one another’s needs for emotional and physical intimacy.  They may look outside the marriage for support from someone who is not connected to the trauma.  Marital infidelity will begin a process of marital dissolution.

Mifepristone is a very powerful chemical.  It didn’t just end the life of their unborn child.  The drug traumatized this couple, made their home a place of death, and in time may kill their marriage.

They may struggle to associate any of their personal and marital problems to their chemical abortion…pro choice ideology forbid this.  But the physical, emotional and relational symptoms will cry out to them to acknowledge this loss, to face the truth of their actions…so they can repent and heal.