I know some choices are forever
I was single and about to enter graduate school in a different state. One
friend knew; the father knew, but didn’t want to get involved in the decision
There was a required group counseling session that lasted 30-60 min. the day
before the scheduled abortion. The only questions I recall were, "Why are you
having this?" and, "Does the father know?"
The doctor had no smile. He did not want to answer any questions. He touched
my abdomen. A nurse was there. He put anesthetic on me. I felt discomfort, but
not any real pain. I was weak afterwards, but didn’t experience much heavy
The one friend who knew no longer is in contact with me. Same with the
father. I practiced what I can only describe as "deliberate amnesia" about it.
Just 2 weeks after the abortion, I met the man who is now my husband. I told
him about the abortion just a month into our relationship. He is anti-abortion.
He almost broke off our relationship (unbeknownst to me). I made a confession 3
years ago to my priest. His kindness and words of encouragement lifted an
I think I realize how precious all life is now. I understand how easily
people can make poor choices, because information is withheld or
social/peer/parental pressures seem overwhelming. I know some choices are