Love Song for Number Two
Wedding Homily: Gospel: Mt. 22:35-40
Fr. Frank Pavone
The day has arrived... a day we have all looked forward to and planned for a
long time. As this day has drawn near, the two of you have received a lot of
advice, and certainly before the day is over, you will receive a lot more.
What is the one most important word of advice you can receive for your
marriage? What is the number one rule for your marriage to be happy... and for
your life to be fulfilling? This is basically the question that Jesus was asked
in the Gospel reading. "Which commandment of the law is the greatest?" In other
words, what must we keep uppermost in mind?
Regarding marriage, most would probably say, "The most important thing is:
love each other." But - and this may surprise us - Jesus does NOT say that.
Jesus says that you must love each other, but that is the SECOND commandment.
The first, most important one is, "Love the LORD your GOD." God is to be first,
and Christ tells us to love Him not with SOME of our heart or even most of our
heart, but with ALL of our heart. There are three partners to a successful
marriage: husband, wife, and God. And God must be first. There is a Christian
song called "Love song for Number Two." A Christian's husband is her "Number
Two"; a Christian's wife is his "Number Two." Number One for both is the Lord.
First of all, only He can fully satisfy our heart. A husband and wife can
make each other happy, but can never FULLY SATISFY each other's deepest
longings. If they set out on marriage expecting to make each other PERFECTLY
content, they will end up frustrated and disappointed. The human heart was made
for God and is restless until it rests in Him.
Beside this, it is only when we love God that we are ABLE to love one
another! The power to love, to give ourselves away in good times and bad, in
sickness and health, all the days of our life, comes from God! We cannot rely on
our own strength! The vows you make today are, HUMANLY SPEAKING, not only
difficult but impossible to fulfill. Yet we do not rely on only human strength.
The two of you, N. and N., are not the only ones making vows here today. GOD is
making a vow. He says, "I will be with you, and I will give you every ounce of
strength you need to be faithful to each other no matter what!" God promises
that here today!
That is why you are getting married before His altar, rather than at home or
at your favorite spot in the park or at the beach. You make your vows before the
altar of God, because you know that you cannot do this without Him. You want to
root your marriage and your lives in Him. You want to respond to Him.
How will you do that? First of all, pray together. You are joining your lives
here today: join your prayers as well. Also, nourish yourselves and your
children on the Word of God in Scripture and the teachings of the Church! Make
use of the sacraments of the Church: Confession, to wash your sins away, and
Holy Communion, to draw you even closer to Christ and each other.
Love the Lord your God with all your heart, mind, soul, and strength. Then,
N. and N., I promise you in the Name of Christ, that you will be able to love
one another all the days of your life! God bless you!