Post-Abortion Healing: Who We Are is How We Heal
Msgr. Mike Mannion
[Note: Msgr. Mike Mannion, a priest of the Diocese of Camden, NJ, is a
pioneer in the field of healing after abortion. He authored some of the first
books on this topic and helped develop the Church’s understanding of the wounds
abortion brings and of the path to healing. In the following article, Fr. Mike
brings to our attention a new line of thought he is developing that links the
path of healing with the traditional schools of spirituality in the Church.]
If St. Thomas Aquinas was correct when he stated: “Grace builds on nature,” then
we can learn much about the journey of healing for those suffering from the
aftermath of abortion.
When personality types are matched with Christian schools and traditions of
spirituality, a “healing guide” can be developed as a significant resource in
walking with one who is broken in the journey toward wholeness.
Recognizing that our goal is psycho-spiritual, we seek not just to help the
post- abortive individual return to pre-abortive attitudes, behaviors, beliefs
and commitments, for they might have actually predisposed and facilitated the
abortion decision. Instead, we seek to help the individual integrate the wound
of abortion into his or her life in a true Paschal Mystery sense, identifying
with the life, death and resurrection of Jesus.
Christ has died. My baby has died.
Christ is risen. My baby will rise.
Christ will come again. And when he does, He will carry my baby in His arms and
him/her to me.
The healing process is not just one of reconciliation, but
reunion and healing as well.
Perhaps the post-abortive woman or man is one who especially values tradition
and is inclined to “connect the dots” between past, present and future. This is
a person who would seek to commemorate events in the life of Jesus and also to
entrust her/his child to the Child Jesus., the Healer Jesus, the Merciful Jesus,
the Consoling and Compassionate Jesus. This is one whose healing process or
journey, in a sense, parallels an Ignatian spirituality, in the spirit of St.
St. Ignatius was the sixteenth century soldier who experienced a profound
religious conversion while recuperating from a severe leg wound, and later,
after a pilgrimage to the Holy Land, gathered together a group of “companions in
Christ,” later to be known as the “Society of Jesus” - Jesuits. The seeker of
healing would do well to learn more about the spirituality of St. Ignatius
Loyola, for it would complement her/his journey to Jesus and His loving embrace.
Perhaps the post-abortive woman or man is drawn to action and opportunity – a
life centered in actively seeking to do God’s will. Spontaneous prayer, informal
prayer, and a special openness to the Holy Spirit, as well as acts of loving
service, are all parts of this person’s “spiritual profile” and inclinations.
All these characteristics are common to a Franciscan spirituality. Compassion
for the “lepers” of our day and a deep appreciation for the beauty, gift and
goodness of God’s creation, may lead a mournful mother or father to plant a
flower or a tree in memory of their aborted child. This is a gesture, when
combined with a sacramental and prayerful experience, that may contribute
significantly to healing.
St. Francis of Assisi felt that one’s experience of the Eucharist was so visible
and tangible that it was akin to the apostles’ experience of the Jesus who
walked the earth with them. In other words, in the Eucharist, we see the Lord.
Be it in the humble babe of Bethlehem, the common bread of the Eucharist, or the
sacrifices Christ of the cross – in other words: from crib to cross – Jesus is
real and it is His presence and purpose that will heal the mother and father of
a lost child.
Augustinian spirituality may provide a comfortable context of healing for those
who find themselves drawn to prayer and retreats, reflections upon what Jesus
would say or do today, especially in light of their loss to abortion. This is
particularly true because through the abortion they lost not only the baby but
also a part of themselves. These are people of hope who, despite their pain,
tend to believe that their days will get better and that the experience of God’s
love will daily grow stronger as they, in turn, believe in His love. They see
the words and spirit of the Scriptures as valuable and very relevant to their
current struggles. St. Augustine, in his sermons, often spoke of Christ the
Physician: if we are humble enough, Christ will heal us. The broken heart will
find rest only if it responds to the invitation of the Divine Physician to
“Learn of me, because I am meek and humble of heart.” A reflection on that
reality could easily lead the broken to compose prayer or poem to the Divine
Physician acknowledging His healing call and the fact that the more one loves
others, the more one loves God. That knowledge and love together marks the path
to Jesus the Healer.
St. Benedict established his monasteries in the wilderness in a world of
solitude and silence. Yet, many historians recognize that fifteen centuries ago
the only institution capable of maintaining any aspect of western civilization
was the Church, through its monasteries and its spirituality. Benedict’s monks
balanced manual labor and spiritual exercises: orare est laborare, and
were known for their hospitality toward the poor, sick, and oppressed. To the
Benedictine, the heart of Christianity is love, reflected in mutual respect,
selflessness, patience, mutual respect and obedience. This obedience is directly
related to the will of God, through several channels: scripture, tradition,
Magisterium, abbot and the community.
Many who seek healing after an abortion seem to need and hunger for a specific
structure as a path to healing. The call to surrender oneself to the Lord
through discovering and discerning the depths of His unconditional love and
healing through a strong commitment to seek God’s truth is a critical part of
that healing as well. In many of our institutions today, however, though few
seem willing to admit it, the search is not for truth but for power. The
spirituality of St. Benedict teaches us that we can “speak the truth in love”
rather than in condemnation. In fact, in the healing process, the authentic
search is for the ultimate truth of God’s unconditional love, and the authority
that truth conveys, through the life, death and resurrection of Jesus. The
purpose of this truthful love is not only to embrace God’s love but also to
forgive one’s self. Thus, as the old adage expresses, we seek not the “love of
power,” but the “power of love.”
Many schools or traditions of spirituality have emerged in the 2000 year
tradition of the Catholic Church. In studying them, one can easily see a
beautiful “tapestry of life and faith,” where many colors and threads
intermingle with each other. The soul who hungers for healing may, in the last
analysis, draw eclectically from aspects of many spiritual traditions. We have
looked, briefly, at only a few in the preceding paragraphs. Though we are all
certainly made in God’s image and likeness, there is a uniqueness and
individuality to each of us that can help heal all of us, especially those who
carry the wounds of abortion in the memories of their lives. At the center,
there is always a loving Jesus, ever seeking to lead us to the Father, through
the gentle power and presence of the Holy Spirit.
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