As the father of the aborted baby, I was not in the room where the abortion was performed, but I did go to the clinic with both women and both were devastated after having the abortion. I gave them obligatory support, but really did not connect with their pain
I know that abortion is not the answer and had healing through confession and helping fatherless children. That is why I am silent no more: Scott's testimony from the 2019 March for Life in Ottawa.
"My recovery from the abortions began with taking responsibility for the gravity of what I did. I received counselling, went on many retreats including Rachael’s Vineyard." David's Testimony from the 2019 March for Life in Ottawa
"The abortion of my son was completed against my will. I was hurting, feeling like I didn't do enough to save my child...I was angry with God. I could not understand why He would let this happen." Ken's 2020 Walk for Life Testimony
"Some people say this is a woman’s issue. I say when men abdicate their role of supporting, respecting, and caring for women, there will be issues!" Barry's 2020 Walk for Life Testimony
"If our story can save someone else from having an abortion, that would be so great. Because, to this day, I still wonder what kind of person our child would have been." Jon and Della's 2020 March for Life Testimony
"It had never occurred to me that I was grieving. How could I grieve for someone whose death I had caused?" Matthew's 2020 March for Life Testimony
"The joys of motherhood were shattered as the guilt and shame came rushing to the surface. The overwhelming accusations--"This is the punishment you deserve" tormented my mind. Believing these lies, the weight of our decision became heavier and heavier." Tim and Debbie's 2020 March for Life Testimony
"We’ve rallied around our other 4 children for so many years and did our best to give them a loving home and good upbringing. It is to Mary Catherine’s memory that we now rally around her in hope of eliminating the heinous act of abortion." Paul and Maureen's 2020 March for Life Testimony
"I feel God forgives me, and I try to forgive myself, but I still do not forget the hurt."
"Todo lo que quería hacer era escapar y alejarme de ella y de toda la situación. Me sentí temeroso pero liberado; me di cuenta de lo bajo que podía llegar. Caí en una depresión aguda, alcoholismo, e incrementé mi consumo de drogas."
"My heart still aches, and it is very overwhelming to relive this day by speaking to you right now. But I feel that my testimony might help others or save a life. Today I’d like to tell you about the day I lost my child to abortion."
"In all the years before, it had never occurred to me that I could possibly be carrying grief. After all, how could I have grief for someone whose death that I had caused? Well, I did have this grief, and I learned that some people call it the 'forbidden grief', because it’s not the kind of loss that you feel free to just talk about with anyone."
"Some people say this is a women’s issue. I say when men abdicate their role of supporting, respecting, and caring for women, there will be issues!" Barry's 2019 March for Life testimony
"I tried to forget about it, thinking it would eventually go away. I was wrong. I blamed myself for not standing up for my baby. Inside, I felt shame, and I blamed myself for being a coward. But we never talked about it." Jon's 2019 March for Life testimony
"I’ve climbed the mountain of depression, anxiety, & self-loathing. While I will never completely get over the loss of my children, I’ve come to peace and love in my heart for them and myself. God loves you, and no sin is bigger than God’s mercy." Charles Brian's 2019 March for Life testimony
"What I didn't understand was this: At the moment of conception, I was not a 'potential father'. I truly was a father. I selfishly pursued my career instead of my responsibility." David's testimony from the 2018 March for Life in Ottawa
"My girlfriend and I became estranged after the abortion. Something that had been living in our relationship -- faith in each other or hope for our future -- was gone. Our relationship ended a couple of years later. Many years after that, the reality of my fatherhood hit me and wouldn't go away." Clinton's testimony from the 2018 March for Life in Ottawa
"In the 1970s I was living with my girlfriend, my Eve, away from my Catholic faith. I was responsible for her pregnancy and, like so many Adams do with their Eve’s, I told my girlfriend how it was not a good time for us to have a child, giving her all the lies that many men give to convince their Eves that abortion is the best way out of their problem." Fr. Stephen's 2018 March for Life testimony
"I now understand and believe that a woman’s love for her child is stamped in her heart by God. Her baby cannot be ripped away without devastating and permanent consequences. That wound is forever. Planned Parenthood, that was NOT health care, nor a reproductive right." Chuck's 2018 March for Life testimony
"The abortion of my
son was completed against my will. I was hurting, feeling like I didn't do
enough to save my child from going through the agonizing death of abortion. Our
relationship ended that day. I was angry with God. I could not understand why He would let this
happen." Ken’s 2018 March for Life
"At that moment I
realized my healing involved the death of two children, Mary and Thomas, and
the wounding of one woman, my Eve. I also realized that my apology to her and
taking responsibility of the death of our two children removed a big obstacle to
our healing." Fr. Stephen's 2018 Walk for Life Testimony
"My wife and I attended a Rachel's Vineyard retreat and found healing and a new freedom to speak out for the unborn."
Jay shares the story of his lost fatherhood.
"I started drinking deliberately rather than casually at this time, hoping the awareness of the life we had conceived would disappear like the pregnancy had. But it did not. It never went away." Scott's testimony from the 2017 March for Life in Ottawa