I became part of the 85% of men that initiate the thought of abortion in a mother's mind. I blamed her father who is a fire captain using his own words, saying if she ever got pregnant she would be cut off, etc. I convinced her this was our only option as we were barely 18 and unable to be parents.
As the father of the aborted baby, I was not in the room where the abortion was performed, but I did go to the clinic with both women and both were devastated after having the abortion. I gave them obligatory support, but really did not connect with their pain
I know that abortion is not the answer and had healing through confession and helping fatherless children. That is why I am silent no more: Scott's testimony from the 2019 March for Life in Ottawa.
"My recovery from the abortions began with taking responsibility for the gravity of what I did. I received counselling, went on many retreats including Rachael’s Vineyard." David's Testimony from the 2019 March for Life in Ottawa
"The abortion of my son was completed against my will. I was hurting, feeling like I didn't do enough to save my child...I was angry with God. I could not understand why He would let this happen." Ken's 2020 Walk for Life Testimony
"Some people say this is a woman’s issue. I say when men abdicate their role of supporting, respecting, and caring for women, there will be issues!" Barry's 2020 Walk for Life Testimony
"If our story can save someone else from having an abortion, that would be so great. Because, to this day, I still wonder what kind of person our child would have been." Jon and Della's 2020 March for Life Testimony
"It had never occurred to me that I was grieving. How could I grieve for someone whose death I had caused?" Matthew's 2020 March for Life Testimony
"The joys of motherhood were shattered as the guilt and shame came rushing to the surface. The overwhelming accusations--"This is the punishment you deserve" tormented my mind. Believing these lies, the weight of our decision became heavier and heavier." Tim and Debbie's 2020 March for Life Testimony
"We’ve rallied around our other 4 children for so many years and did our best to give them a loving home and good upbringing. It is to Mary Catherine’s memory that we now rally around her in hope of eliminating the heinous act of abortion." Paul and Maureen's 2020 March for Life Testimony
"I feel God forgives me, and I try to forgive myself, but I still do not forget the hurt."
"Todo lo que quería hacer era escapar y alejarme de ella y de toda la situación. Me sentí temeroso pero liberado; me di cuenta de lo bajo que podía llegar. Caí en una depresión aguda, alcoholismo, e incrementé mi consumo de drogas."